20 Ex Back Success Stories – 50 Percent of Exes Come Back

Studies show that between 30% and 50% of couples who break up eventually get back together, with some research suggesting a success rate higher than 50%.

In my 2 decades of helping exes get back together I’ve found that getting back together after a breakup isn’t luck — there’s a pattern to it. In the 20 success stories below, you will notice that exes who reconnected and stayed connected did so because one or both people created the conditions for emotional safety, trust, and emotional openness and communication.

They stopped trying to force feelings. They slowed down. They communicated. They took responsibility for their part, showed real change through actions (not just words), and rebuilt connection in small, meaningful steps. Many focused on emotional regulation, reducing anxiety, becoming more secure, and letting the relationship unfold instead of controlling the outcome. Others relied on steady, warm contact or genuine friendship that naturally reignited closeness.

At the core, what made getting back together possible was consistency, emotional safety, self-work, and a willingness to rebuild something new instead of repeating the old relationship. These are the patterns that I’ve observed in all the success stories I’ve been privileged to be part of … and they’re the same patterns that can make reconnection possible for anyone.

Hopefully these stories encourage you to choose a secure-based approach, stay consistent, open, and safe — trust your love and the process. It happened for them, and it can happen for you.

1. Anja’s ex back success story (Step by step, day by day)

I found your site seven months ago when I just broke up with my ex. It was the toughest time of my life but your words and advice gave me comfort and hope. I started all over again to slowly build our relationship. Step by step, day by day things got better and better. I finally created enough momentum to ask him if he wanted to get back together. He said yes. So we are back together.

Why it worked: Because the Anja rebuilt connection slowly and consistently — step by step — creating enough emotional momentum for a natural reunion.

2. Rez’s ex back success story (Patience and persistence)

For those wondering if this works, it does. Worked for me twice actually. First time it took a month to get her back but I screwed up again and she broke up with me. I had learned from past mistakes and specifically asked to keep the lines of communication open. This time it took 3 months to get her back.

Why it worked: Because Rez learned from his mistakes, stayed patient, kept communication open, and showed persistence — leading to regained trust.

3. Kym’s ex back success story (I needed to change)

Yangki, just wanted to let you know that my ex and I are back together. We have been back together for a month and things couldn’t be better. You helped me realize what I needed to change and I can truly say I’m different now. I used to be so worried and anxious all the time. I’m more relaxed, don’t overreact and have learned to live in the moment. I am much more independent and not needy. Our communication is so much better and more open. Of course there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship but this time is close.

Why it worked: Because Kym genuinely changed — became calmer, more independent, less anxious and needy — which created a healthier foundation for reconciliation.

4. Lee’s ex back success story (It was worth fighting for)

After reading countless posts on this blog i just had to say that I disciplined myself to put the words into action and have successfully rekindled with my ex. After a month of very light contact and another month of the two step forward-one step back dance, I built up enough emotional momentum for us to agree to start over, work on fixing anything that troubled us from our last relationship, and build a new one. Two years and nine months was worth fighting for, especially since we were friends for so long beforehand.

Why it worked: Because Lee took things very slowly, maintained light contact, and rebuilt trust gradually instead of rushing — enabling them to start fresh on a more stable basis.

5. Tyler’s ex back success story (It happened without words)

My ex and I split in 2022. We ended up merging into a longer love relationship in 2023 and beyond. It was over three years. Although, I agree with the article that the longer time goes by the harder it is, and who knows why or how my ex and I suddenly became an item again. We started back out as friends a year and a half after we initially split. We were friendly over the next year and a half and it suddenly grew intimate again. So it does happen. Each case would have to be evaluated. We certainly weren’t looking to get back together and nor did it come up. It happened without words.

Why it worked: Because Tyler started as friends first, letting intimacy and feelings return naturally without forcing a reunion — which naturally led to reconnection.

6. Ricco’s ex back success story (I maintained contact with her)

Speaking from personal experience, my ex started to show interest in me again once the rebound wore off. I maintained contact with her while working to improve myself. She said she noticed the change and expressed genuine remorse. We started slow and after a month we got back together. I know this is not for everyone but don’t just give up because she started dating someone new. Just keep contact, play it very cool and don’t go talking about how much you love her.

Why it worked: Because Ricco stayed in contact while focusing on self-improvement — she saw his change and attempts to do better, which re-ignited her interest and rebuilt back her trust in him.

7. Kayla’s ex back success story (We love each other too much to give up on us)

Yangki, thank you for showing me I was doing all the wrong things to get back my ex. He and I decided to give us another chance. We’re both going into it cautiously but we realize we love each other too much to give up on us now. You were instrumental in getting me to where i am today and I came back to say thank, thank you. My advice to everyone trying to get their ex back, it is so easy to give up but trust your gut. It is never a loss when you fully apply yourself unreservedly with someone you love — regardless of how long it takes.

Why it worked: Because both people were willing to give the relationship another chance, committed to taking it slow and real effort — showing love and willingness to rebuild together.

8. Eliz’s ex back success story (I asked him if he wants to try the relationship again)

Hi Yangki, I just had to tell you what a blessing your book and site are! My ex broke up with me because he didn’t feel the same love for me as I felt for him. I started no contact but I couldn’t completely disconnect myself from him. I contacted him and over the course of 5 weeks things progressed rapidly. We spent a lot of time talking about how to improve the relationship. he was very attentive, holding me tightly and giving me long hugs but I was the one that asked him if he wants to try the relationship again. We are back together but still taking it slow.

Why it worked: Because after reconnecting and spending time talking and working on issues, Eliz felt confident enough to ask him to try again — and things progressed positively.

9. May’s ex back success story (I was not attached to him responding)

Letting go is the best advice I read from your Just a Breakup book. I was afraid to let him go because I was afraid to lose him. It already had been 5 months and he was slipping further and further away. I begged, pleaded, and wrote him love letter. I even did no contact but on advice of his best friend abandoned the idea. My ex is full of pride and would completely cut me out of his life and I felt the future was completely out of my control. After desperately trying to hold on, I bought your book and started practicing letting go. When I sent a text I was not attached to him responding, and slowly but surely he started to text more. When it came to dates, I didn’t show anxiety or react when he cancelled. We eventually got back together and 2 months counting still together. Attracting back your ex really does happen, but you have to let go. Its hard actually because its scary, but let yourself go with the flow and have faith.

Why it worked: Because May “let go” — stopped clinging, detached emotionally, and stopped being needy — which reduced pressure and allowed space for him to come back.

10. Dea‘s ex back success story (I was communicating calmly and always positive)

The breakup happened because our relationship wasn’t at all healthy. We remained in contact strictly as friends. I signed up for coaching with Yangki and started to see a therapist about things from my childhood. My ex was skeptical at first but after sometime he saw I was communicating calmly and always positive. Also we were hanging out and he tried to kiss me but I told I still love him but he needs to change also. He agreed, and he ask me to help him to draw plan for working on himself. We also agree not to be intimate until we feel we have both become better. He work to changed and after 4 months we decide to try the relationship for a month. A month turned to 2 and now we’re together almost 4 months. If you’ve established a strong emotional bond then it will be easier to get him back.

Why it worked: Because Dea communicated calmly, stayed positive, addressed issues (with my help), and both agreed to take things slow — rebuilding emotional safety before resuming intimacy.

11. Sandy’s ex back success story (I apologized and told him he tried his best)

My ex says he still loves me but feels bad because he has tried to make me happy and failed. For a long time I blamed him for giving up on us. People were advising me that he is selfish and until I found your site I believed he was selfish and did not want to try the relationship again. Four days ago I reached out to him after telling him I needed space, he responded and since then we have been talking and he is opening up to me about how he feels when I complain about him not doing enough. I apologized and told him he tried his best but I was not letting him be. We have agreed to start as friends and take things slowly.

Why it worked: Because Sandy reached out after giving space, acknowledged feelings, and apologized — opening a channel for honest communication and renewed connection.

12. Jan’s ex back success story (My energy was pushing someone I love away)

It made sense as why my ex didn’t think he could make me happy. He kept telling me he still loved me but doesn’t know if he can make me happy. After reading your articles on letting people love us, I explained to him that I didn’t let him love me because I was trying to control how he loved me. He thanked me and said that’s exactly how he felt. I started asking for his help on my renovations projects and also advice on problems at work, and he showed he very much wanted to do things for me. We grew closer and that’s what eventually got us back together. I still find myself afraid to tell him how I feel or ask for what I want, but it’s slowly becoming a part of me. Thank you for showing me how my energy was pushing someone I love away.

Why it worked: Because Jan realized how her energy and behaviour were pushing her ex away, stopped trying to control everything, allowed him to help and feel useful — which reopened emotional closeness.

13. Mike’s ex back success story (We built up a new relationship from scratch)

We have been dating for a total of 4 and a half years and our relationship suffered a major breakdown last year and she felt that she lost the feeling of “being in love”. I was devastated and came across your website and bought your book and saw a glimmer of hope. Your advice was positive, hopeful and very logical. After working on myself for 5 weeks and learning to deal with unpleasant emotions (I was a very emotional, insecure and needy person in the old relationship), I reached out to her and was surprised to receive an instantaneous response. Through pressure free contact, I eventually built up the emotional momentum to ask her on a coffee date to which she gladly accepted. For several months, we built up a new relationship from scratch and have both grown up, matured and become better versions of ourselves to make it work this time around. The rest is history and we are heading towards a future together.

Why it worked: Because Mike consciously rebuilt a new relationship from scratch, rather than going back into old patterns, creating a more secure foundation.

14. Wayne’s ex back success story (I was able to create a secure and safe emotional environment)

My is anxious attachment individual who is sociable and has plenty of friends. Me on the other hand, I’m a fearful avoidant, was closed and emotionally guarded, extremely jealous and controlling. Slowly reading your articles and talking to you, I learned how to trust and be vulnerable and opened my sensitive side to her (I found the balance between sensitivity and masculine energy that you talk about). I was also able to create a secure and safe emotional environment for her and in turn she opened up to me the way she had never done before. We give each other space to pursue individual interests and the times we spend together are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically fulfilling. You are right, when securely attached, it doesn’t take so much work to be in a relationship and I am not ‘trying’ to be the kind and loving partner to her, I just am. Thank you for helping us find each other again. God Bless.

Why it worked: Because Wayne and his ex made a safe and secure emotional environment for each other — rebuilding emotional trust and mutual safety as a base for getting back together.

15. Lulu’s ex back success story ( I set boundaries for how we go forward)

We were broken up for 2 yrs 3 mos. We were not to talk for 1 wk, but after only 4 days he sent a text saying not talking was too hard. We texted on avrg 2 -3 texts a wk. I met someone 4 mos later and it lasted 2 mos, another lasted 8 mos. His was 1 year after the breakup and lasted 10 mos. After my last rebound relationship, I came across this site and bought all of Yangki’s books and coaching notes. I also did a lot of changing and set boundaries for how we go forward since he was in a relationship. We started to spend a lot of time together, eventually he ended it with the other woman. We officially started dating 2 yrs after we broke up. We made sure to not rush into a relationship, Yangki’s trial period idea worked so well for us. Two days ago we got back together. We are still taking it slow but determined to make it work. We tried other relationship and believe that we are meant to be together. Everyone don’t give up, things can work out even after 2 years of trying.

Why it worked: Because Lulu set clear boundaries for how things would go forward and took things slow which helped rebuild trust and clarity before restarting the relationship.

16. Antoine’s ex back success story (Being honest and open about my feelings changed everything)

Yangki, a quick success story to share with your readers. My ex came back after 6 months of trying to get her back. I can’t say for sure that one thing worked because I tried so many things. What I can say for sure is that being honest and open with her about my feelings changed everything. Within just over a month of open emotional connection her attitude towards me changed which hardly seemed possible before. I focused on creative ideas on how to create positive feelings and things changed for the better. But best of all, I was relaxed which also made her feel relaxed. What I want to say to everyone is- don’t give up. Getting back your ex is a hard process but is more than doable.

Why it worked: Because Antoine was honest and open about his feelings — emotional transparency and relaxed confidence changed the dynamic and helped her feel safe to reconnect.

17. Cece’s ex back success story (I never gave up)

I got my ex back after 8 long months of hard work. We were together for 5 years and have a child together. I think we were both not ready for the responsibilities of parenting and it tore us apart. He had basically given up on us and was dating someone new but I never gave up. With hard work and patience, I won him back. We’re proof that many problems facing a relationship can be fixed. Unless you’ve reached the point where one or both of you don’t want to fix them, you should keep trying. Don’t lose hope. Stay positive, anything can happen!

Why it worked: Because Cece never gave up: through persistent effort, patience, and commitment, she showed she was willing to fight for the relationship, which eventually paid off.

18. Pat’s ex back success story (we decided to start by hanging out as “friends”)

My ex and I have strong feelings for each other but we decided to start by hanging out as “friends”. It was her suggestion and I went along with it. I had previously made the mistake of telling an ex that it is all or nothing and she moved on. Also I wasn’t there for my ex and I needed her to see that I had made positive changes in my life to better myself. To cut the long story short, we have decided to get back together. I know that this time things will be different and I am excited to start the new relationship.

Why it worked: Because they started over slowly — hanging out as friends first, demonstrating change and consistency before re-committing romantically — which rebuilt trust and respect.

19.Tivett’s ex back success story (He had said he didn’t see us working out)

Yangki, I want to first of all say thank you. Three months ago, I found your blog and bought your ebook at a time when I had lost all hope because I didn’t know where to start. I contacted my ex and slowly he started to respond to me even when he had said he didn’t see us working out. Start of September he finally admitted that he still had strong feelings for me and was willing to give us another chance. Technically we are back together and I have you to thank for it.

Why it worked: Because Tivett approached reconnection gradually — reached out with care, allowed time for feelings to grow, and her ex eventually admitted he still cared — giving the relationship a second chance under new terms.

20. Kes’ ex back success story (I ended up getting her back by talking and solving our problems)

No Contact was the dumbest and most destructive thing I ever did, and I did many dumb things to get her back. I strongly advise against using it if you have a deep investment in your relationship. It’s good for high school romance and relationships you don’t have much stake in, but creates the opposite effect with someone you have spent many years with. They end up having doubts about you, and questioning the relationship. I stopped all that no contact bullcrap and ended up getting back my ex by talking and solving our problems.

Why it worked: Because Kes communicated: talked things through, addressed problems, worked to solve issues together — solving underlying problems rather than ignoring them helped them get back together.

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