If you are here because you are asking “Are there signs that you’re meant to be together. My ex and I love each other, but can’t be together. We keep breaking up and coming back to each other. Why can’t we let go of each other?”, you are in the right place.
Reading dating and relationship advice on many sites, one might think that the biggest relationship problem today is that there is not enough love between couples. That may be true for some few relationships, but not true for many relationships.
In many relationships, two people who in every sense of the word “love’ each other find that can’t stay together but they can’t away from each either. It’s like some force pulls them into each other’s arms and another force rips them apart, literally.
There is a reason why you can’t let go of each other
As crazy as it may be, there can actually be hope for two people who can’t seem to let go of each other. It’s likely that the love between the two of them is so strong that it can’t let them stay away from each other. That’s the good news.
The bad news is that the issues (insecurities, arguments, poor communication, anger and fear etc), that keep pulling you are apart will keep the two of you apart no matter how much you love each other. You will still love each other but you can’t be together if you do not work on why you keep breaking up.
These 10 signs will tell you if you should keep working on being together or let go of the other
1. No doubts
You both know “this is it”. There is no doubt you love your ex and no doubt that your ex loves you. You know everything about each other and you love the good, bad and ugly – all of it.
2. You won’t give up
It’s been a year or more and many break-ups in between, and BOTH of you are still “trying to make it work”. You BOTH feel like giving up, but something more powerful just won’t let you give up.
3. You keep working on making things better
Both of you recognize that your relationship has problems. You have talked about it openly about it. Each person has taken responsibility for their part in the relationship not working out. Each person keeps working at being better individually and as a couple.
4. Break-ups are mainly amicable
The relationship ends with no animosity or harsh words because you genuinely love, care for and respect each other. No drama, no angry words, just two people who recognize that they have something special but for some reason they can’t make the relationship work, and be tother.
5. You remember mostly the good things
Even if you keep breaking up and getting back together, the relationship on most part is a good relationship. When you talk about the break-up, you talk about how much you are hurting but you also talk about how happy you were. There is the pain of not being together but mostly the happiness of still being in each other’s life.
6. You stay friends post break-up
You are each other’s ‘best friend” and genuinely care deeply about the other. Your ex is the constant and one of the stabilizing factors in your life. The thought of not being able to talk to them feels wrong.
7. No one else measures up to your ex
Both of you have tried dating other people but it’s just “not the same”. The new person is great and all, but you don’t feel the same way you feel about your ex.
8. Everyone thinks you’re right for each other
Most of your friends and relatives think you are right for each other. They tell you that you make each other happy. and are both very miserable without the other. Most of them wonder why the two of you can’t stay together.
9. The relationship keeps improving
You have had many conversations about what you both want out of the relationship. Every time you get back together, the relationship is “better” than the last time. Both of you recognize and acknowledge that things are better, but you know it’s still not enough to keep you together.
10. You don’t need anyone to tell you
This article reads like it was written just for you. All the signs that you’re meant to be together are exactly what is happening in your relationship. Even before reading this article, you knew you were meant to be together but reading this is a confirmation.
Knowing the signs you’re meant to be together is not enough
If ALL the signs that you are meant to be together are happening in your relationship (and I mean ALL, not just one of them), it means that yours is one of those “meant to be together” relationships. But just because you are gravitate back to each other does not mean you’ll stay together.
As long as your insecurities, poor communication, anger and fear etc. still run the relationship, the relationship has no chance. The on-and-off- again will go on a few more times but because human beings “grow” whether they are aware of it or not, one of you will “out grow” the other, and move on.
If you are in a ‘meant to be together’ relationship, give love a chance. Work on the issues that are keeping you apart.