10 Silly Mind Games Your Ex Is Playing

A mind or mental game is nothing more than good old manipulation to get you to do what someone wants you to do, but suspects or knows that you will not do willingly or unreservedly — and for good reason.

The whole purpose is to try to mess with your otherwise sane and reasonable head.

Here is the thing: If it feels like a mind game, it is.

1. Your ex texts you and when you don’t respond, he/she texts again to say he/she “accidentally” texted you.

2. Your ex calls then hangs up. And when you call back, they say it was a drunk call or their butt dialed your number.

3. Your ex texts or calls asking you to do them a favour; something anyone else could have easily done.

4. Your ex sends you a sweet nice text asking about how you are but when you don’t reply as quickly as you are expected, you get the silent treatment or get deleted/blocked.

5. Your ex sends you texts saying how much they miss you but as soon as you respond in “I miss you too” way, they start ignoring you.

6. Your ex sends very flirtatious texts but when you ask personal questions or ask if you can call them, they become abrupt, vague or rude.

7. Your ex sends you some weird text or email with the intention of leaving you guessing… “I have some good news” or “”I’m watching this very funny video on You Tube” or something equally meaningless.

8. You are texting back and forth for a while but then they suddenly stops contact. After a few days/weeks of “No Contact” you get a surprise “I love you” text with a smiley.

9. Your ex flaunts his/her new man or woman in front of you, then acts surprised and/or offended when you do actually get jealous.

10. All seems to be going well, no arguments, no fights but suddenly they pulls the “I don’t love you anymore” stunt just so you beg and plead.

The more you know about the mind games your ex is playing, the better you can protect yourself from getting burned and feeling frustrated and bitter. And if you still care for your ex, you can stop feeding his or her need for drama or attention, or from emotionally abusing you.

But sometimes, you may think your ex is playing mind games when what is happening is that they have attachment anxiety or attachment avoidance (See Understanding Your Avoidant Ex).

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  1. says: Kaili

    I’m ashamed to say, I’ve played quite a few of these silly games myself. But when you see being played out right in front of you, you realize how childish, immature, cruel and heartless it actually really is.

    1. says: Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng

      Don’t be so hard on yourself. You know what they say…. “everybody plays a fool someday or another”.

  2. says: Andy

    On NC. 4 days. Last one i send was hi and she responded an hour later with “?” I never responded back. What is that? Just to check up or acxident you guys think?

  3. says: lilpink

    I think it’s human nature to want what you can’t have. Turning the tables on your ex by telling him that breaking up was the right decision will make him feel rejection too. Doing so allows you to take control of the situation.

    1. says: Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng

      Wanting what you can’t have is the ego’s nature… a struggle mentality.

      Turning the tables on your ex the way you describe is like applying for a bank loan and when rejected, sending a letter to the bank telling them you didn’t even want the loan (because that will make the bank feel rejected… Duh!?).

  4. says: Moolice

    They text you saying “sorry about the missed call, my phone rang you in my pocket”. Yet there was no missed call on the phone.

  5. says: LiedTo

    After nearly 3 months of no contact, my ex created a fake profile on Facebook. It didn’t take long for me to figure out it was her. I was disappointed because I still had feelings for her and thought that may be things could work out for us in the future. Now I don’t even think I ever knew her at all.