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10 Silly Mind Games Your Ex Is Playing
I wasn’t going to answer your question because it’s under the wrong article. But then it started to bother me. Someone is asking for your prayers for his sick Dad and all you think about is yourself?

He is NOT playing a silly mind game. The fact that he reached out to you with an “apology” for how he treated you means that he’s worried about his Dad. The least you can do is pray. It won’t cost you anything. You don’t even have to tell him you prayed. Do it because it’s a kind thing to do. Kindness is not weakness. Kindness shows you still have a heart. Maybe broken, but still there.

10 Silly Mind Games Your Ex Is Playing
This is probably not going to help, but I’ll say it anyway. Your ex is a real jerk. Given his responses, he had no intentions of getting back with you. His on and off contacts were just an ego boost.

It’s hard now, but you will get past this.

10 Silly Mind Games Your Ex Is Playing
You are right, I don’t understand why anyone — especially someone who wants his/her ex back — would think that’s even a smart move.

This could also be interpreted as you’ve thought about it and decided the relationship isn’t worth any more effort. This can make it a lot harder later to say to your ex that you want him/her back without seeming like you don’t know what you want. Even if your ex still has feelings for you, he or she will be afraid to take you back because they can’t trust you not to change your mind (again).

There are better ways of relieving your ex of the pressure caused by your begging and pleading, and showing that you are “positive” about the break-up without hurting your own chances in the process.

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Thank you for your kinds words.

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In the context of attracting back your ex, yes.

Go to “All Articles” in the menu and select “Attachment Anxiety & Avoidant Ex” category or type “attachment anxiety” in the search tool and read the articles that come up.

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Spend time on this site and you’ll learn how. Balancing closeness and respect for the other’s boundaries is exactly what the site is about.

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