10 Examples Of Situationships – You May Be In One

A “situationship” is undefined low-commitment arrangement that is like a casual relationship but feels very much like a relationship.

• It has many of the things that relationships have but it remains “undefined” as dating or unofficially a relationship. It’s just two people who like each other and enjoy each other’s company, communicate regularly and meet occasionally for a date and/or casual sex.
• Some people in situationships even live or move in together because it’s convenient financially or temporarily, but with the understanding that it’s a situationship and not a relationship.
• Sometimes, situationships develop into a full fledged relationship, but most of the time, they remain undefined until one person decides the situationship no longer fulfills their need or isn’t convenient anymore.

Here are 10 signs are very likely, definitely in a situationship.

1. It’s Open

Example: You both have agreed that you like each other and spend lots of time together but you also have agreed to seeing other people (keep your options open).

2. It’s a fill-in

Example: You just moved to a new city and trying to meet new friends, you meet someone, the chemistry is good, one thing leads to another and feelings develop but neither of you thinks it’ll last (or wants it to last).

3. It’s superficial

Example: One or both of you just got out of a long-term toxic relationship, you like each other a lot but one or both of you isn’t necessarily looking for a ‘serious’ relationship (just yet).

4. It’s convenient

Example: You’re living or studying abroad, maybe even living together but there is no serious discussion or plans as to what happens once your study is over, and you go back to your respective countries.

5. It’s what-it-is

Example: You met someone you really connect with but one of you is soon relocating. You have decided that a long-distance relationship will not work but you continue to see each other for the time you have left together.

6. It’s better than nothing

Example: You’re doing all the things people in a relationship do except for investing effort in making the relationship work long-term. It’s like you are keeping each other around to avoid being alone (single). You know it and they know it too but neither of you wants to talk about it because it will upset the status quo.

7. It’s ambiguous

Example: You met online or through a dating service and hit it off. Things seemed to be going well but for a while now it is unclear if you are a in ‘relationship’ or broken up. It’s been a long time since you last saw each other in person, and all you have going is a text here and an email or phone call there. They are not completely gone, but they are not ‘there’ either.

8. It’s suspicious

Example: You’re with someone who is separated from their spouse (or in the process of divorce). They say they want to spend the rest of their life with you; but want you to keep the ‘relationship’ secret until after the divorce. It’s been months (even years) and yet they still haven’t filed (or signed) the divorce papers.

9. It’s awkward

Example: You’ve been actively dating for months and it’s like you are already boyfriend/girlfriend, but not quite yet. To your friends, family and work mates, you refer to him or her as “my friend” because you don’t know what to call them.

10. It’s toxic

Example: You’re in an on-and off-again relationship and in-between you date other people. It’s been that way for years, and it’s clear nothing is ever going to change.

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