10 Emotions That Make Your Ex Attracted To You (Joy)

The No.5 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is joy

Joy as an active emotion includes happiness, a sense that you’re content and are enjoying your life.

Joyful and happy people are attractive because they act and talk like they truly love being alive, and are content with their life. Just being around them makes us happy because happiness is contagious.

Unfortunately, joy and happiness is in short supply after a break-up. We’re hurting, sad, angry, frustrated, confused, worried and anxious, and some of us just don’t feel like enjoying life without the person we love and want in our life. But for your ex to want to be a part of your life again, they need to see that you’re in a “good place”. They need to see that you are again genuinely happy on your own and they’re not your only source of joy and happiness.

Seeing you happy on your own is especially attractive to avoidants who feel trapped and suffocated by someone who need them to be happy. It’s also attractive to securely attached because they’re capable of being happy on their own and also happy in a relationship.

Being in a “good place” has to be reflected in how you show up in your interactions because if you are not in a “good place”, it will show even if you try to hide it. Happiness is contagious but so is unhappiness. If your ex doesn’t feel like you are happy n your own, they won’t want to come back to a life of misery and unhappiness.

So make sure you communicate in your words, actions and interactions “I’m in a good place”, and your ex will feel that because you’re happy on your own, you are not going to act needy and clingy, and make them miserable and unhappy.

Use the 3-1 positivity ratio to create “we’re okay, everything is okay” feeling. The 3-1 positivity ratio simply means it takes three positive experiences to offset one negative experience. This means that for every time you emotionally fall apart, show you are anxious, act needy and clingy, don’t treat your ex right or don’t show you care, express negativity etc.,  you need at least three experiences that show your ex, you are in a “good place”.

If you need help with communicating to your ex that “I’m in a good place, we are therefore okay”, or the other 9 emotions that make your ex feel attracted to you, I’m happy to work with you 1-on-1 to make sure the targeted emotion is coming across right and creating the desired impact.

The No.6 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is interest