Emotions That Make Your Ex Feel Attracted To You – No.3 Gratitude
Gratitude is appreciation for the things your ex does to keep the lines of communication open and to show you they still care. Gratitude also means acceptance of what is even when you wish things were different.
The most powerful thing you can do in a break-up situation is say the words: “I accept your decision. I may not agree with it, but I accept it”.
Telling your ex “I agree with the break-up” (which I personally discourage) though well-intended sends the wrong message. By agreeing with the break-up, you are saying you reached the decision that your ex breaking up with you is the right thing to do. It’s only the right thing to do if it was a mutual agreement to break-up. But when someone breaks up with you, and you don’t want them to, agreeing is not the best response.
Once you’ve accepted the break-up, show appreciation for where things are now by not bringing up the past to criticize your ex. And if your ex does something that shows they’re making an effort, acknowledge their effort etc.
It’s the little moments of appreciation and gratitude that make your ex feel attracted to you again. Being grateful doesn’t just make your ex feel attracted to you; it makes you a happier person.
Make sure you use the 3-1 positivity ratio to show gratitude for the things your ex does to keep the lines of communication open and to show you they still care. The 3-1 positivity ratio simply means it takes three positive experiences to offset one negative experience. For every heart-wrenching negative emotional experience you endure; you need to experience at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences that uplift you.
This means that for every experience that made your ex feel that you were not grateful for their efforts; you need at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences for your ex to feel appreciation and acceptance.
If you need help with emotion No.3, or the other 9 emotions that make your ex feel attracted to you; I’m happy to work with you 1-on-1 to make sure the targeted emotion is coming across right; and is creating the desired impact.
