10 Emotions That Make Your Ex Attracted To You (Inspiration)

The No.10 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is inspiration

Hearing “you inspire me” from someone you love, more specifically from an ex triggers very strong emotions. This is because when someone is inspiring, we’re moved to be the best possible version of ourselves. They teach us to be better by being better.

Inspiration matters a lot when trying to get back you ex because for your ex to even want to try the relationship again, they must feel that you are in some way ‘better” than the person they broke up with.

The mistake most anxiously attached people trying to get back an ex do is to repeatedly tell their ex “I now see I did wrong, what I should have done is…. I want us to talk about it” or “I made mistakes in the past, it’s important for me that we fix it and this is what I want us to do.”

They do this over and over, in so many different ways hoping for a different result. An avoidant ex is like, “Nope. I’m not doing that with you again”.

Being in a “constant problem solving mode” does not inspire, it’s a major turn off. And being an inspiration is more than self-awareness. To inspire an ex, you have to actually show growth, not just talk about it. You have to grow enough for your ex 1) to see that you have grown, and 2) also want to do their own personal work.

To make your ex feel inspired and attracted to you, motivate them to be their best self by being your best self. One way you can do this is by overcoming your attachment style tendencies and pushing through your fears.

Make sure you use the 3-1 positivity ratio to trigger love in your ex. The 3-1 positivity ratio simply means it takes three positive experiences to offset one negative experience. For example, for every time you want to tell your ex about the mistakes you are now aware of or want to fix, say or do something that’s uplifting and communicates personal growth. And for every time you want to run away or go no contact, show willingness to risk rejection or show you can put preserving a relationship over self preservation.

If you need help with inspiring your ex or the other 9 emotions that make your ex feel attracted to you, I’m happy to work 1-on-1 with you to make sure the targeted emotion is coming across right and is creating the desired impact.

The No.1 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is love