10 Emotions That Make Your Ex Attracted To You (Love)

The No.1 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is love.

Love is the first emotion you should make your ex feel because love drives attraction. Even an ex who still loves you and knows you love them needs to feel love through your words and actions.

What does love feel like? Love as an emotion is ‘felt love”. While love itself doesn’t require any effort, felt love requires you have to grow and nurture it. When one partner does not feel love or feel loved, the relationship struggles.

Researchers find that people who experience high levels of ‘felt love’ also have significantly higher feelings of purpose and optimism, compared to those who had lower felt love levels.

Felt love loved can mean feeling a deep affection or attachment for someone but it can also mean feeling safe. Attachment theory suggests that people who grew up feeling loved are people who felt that the attachment figure was safe – consistently available, responsive, caring, accepting, supportive and respected boundaries.

Identify which measurement of felt love (passion, closeness, and commitment) caused the relationship to end, and work on creating experiences of felt love in your interactions with your ex. Sometimes you need to work on all the three, and when it comes to making your ex feel love, every emotion counts. So use every emotion listed in the 10 emotions that make your ex feel attracted to you.

Make sure you use the 3-1 positivity ratio to make your ex feel love. The 3-1 positivity ratio simply means it takes three positive experiences to offset one negative experience. For every heart-wrenching negative emotional experience you endure; you need to experience at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences that uplift you.

This means that for every experience that made your ex feel unloved, you need at least three heartfelt positive emotional experiences to make your ex start feeling loved again.

If you need help with emotion No.1, or the other 9 emotions that make your ex feel attracted to you; I’m happy to work with you 1-on-1 to make sure the targeted emotion is coming across right; and is creating the desired impact.

The No.2 emotion that makes your ex feel attracted to you is calm.