8 Times An Ex Came Back Too Late
Sometimes they come back when you’re over them. After you’ve suffered years from their absence. After it took you years to move on. After it took all the strength you…
How Do I Show My Ex I’m Changing Or Prove I Have Changed?
Question: Yangki, my ex said when we broke up “I don’t want the responsibility of being someone’s sole source of happiness”. She always complained that I was needy and suffocating…
My Ex Says He Can’t Be The Man I Want
Question: About year ago, I met a man I am very much attracted to. We hit it off right from the beginning. We were calling each other two to five…
My Ex Was Unhappy Will He Come Back?
Question: Yangki, I’ve read all of your site and love your advice. I was with my ex for 2.5 years. It was a troubled relationship mainly because we didn’t see…
Why Everyone Is Telling You To Move On
Whenever someone tells me “everyone is telling me to move on…”, I hear “I don’t want to move on, but should I?” Many people asking this question are often genuinely…
When Should I Ask My Ex For Another Date?
So you made it through the first date with your ex, now what? Here are some of the key things to remember as you transition from a first date to…
Signs You Or Your Partner Is Emotionally Immature
Emotional maturity is not something most of us consciously look for in a partner. For many of us, it’s not even a priority in the qualities we look for. We…
Why Do Men Emotionally Pull Away?
Question: Yangki, my situation is similar to Jillian’s. My ex also initiates contact but avoids emotionally difficult conversations. It hurts that he shuts me out of his life. He was…
Payback – Getting Even With An Ex (Should You?)
Question: “I really enjoy reading your advice so what I’m about to say does not in anyway take away from the love and hard work you put in your site….
Are Your Insecurities Turning Off Your Ex?
Man: I’m a short, below-average guy in my 40s attracted to only 8s and 9s beautiful women in their 20s and 30s. I’ve messaged hundreds of them online over the…
Is Your Ego Getting In The Way Of Getting Back Your Ex?
Ask your ex to get back together too soon, and you’ll get “no” or “not now.” Drag it out too long and you end up in the friend zone. But…
Does Sex With Your Ex Hurt Your Chances?
Admit it, sex with one’s ex can be tempting whether you are male or female. The idea that your ex still finds you sexually irresistible is flattering to say the…
6 Signs Your Relationship Is Irreparably Damaged
When you love someone so bad, you will do just about anything even keep arguments, fights, drama, conflicts etc., going just to have some kind of contact. At this point…
How Long After A Break-Up Do You Start Dating Again?
You tried to get back your ex and it didn’t work. So much damage had been inflicted on the relationship that it just could not be saved. Now you’re thinking…
Love On The Brain – Accepting A Break-Up Is Hard
Almost every adult experiences a break-up at some point in their lifetime. Most of us in time accept the loss and move on, but there are some people who never…
Why You Shouldn’t Take A Break-Up Personally
Some rejections are simply “I’m not interested” or “You’re not my type.” Most grown ups by a certain age know and accept that in this life, some women will think…
Why Your Ex Doesn’t Think You Changed Enough
How you choose to act after an argument, a fight or break-up determines whether your partner or ex will be able to recognize the attempts you are making to make…
Why Love Always Comes Back Knocking (Karma?)
A client who had played mind games with her boyfriend was talking about how much she regrets what she had done and how she wishes she could take it back…
6 Guidelines – How to Communicate Your Feelings Without Being Needy
1. Be honest about your feelings It’s important to be honest and communicate your feelings to others. Keeping your feelings to yourself leads to miscommunication, unmet needs, and unhealthy relationships….
Regret For The Sacrifices You Made In The Relationship
In a series of studies, social psychologists in the Netherlands found that people with low self-esteem regret the sacrifices they make in relationships and doubt how much their partner loves…
Why Do Women Want Men to Play Hard To Get?
Question: Women complain that men do not contact them after a date because they’re playing hard to get. But when they find a guy who shows them his true feelings…
5 Signs Your Ex Is Emotionally Toxic
Why did my ex do this and doing that are questions almost everyone who leaves a comment on my blog, or signs up for coaching wants the answer to. But…
13 Signs You Are Dating A Needy Man or Woman
We all have our moments when we’re a bit needy and we need some help from others. However, it definitely becomes a problem when someone is needy all of the…
Why Do Men Emotionally Pull Away?
Question: Yangki, my situation is similar to Jillian’s. My ex also initiates contact but avoids emotionally difficult conversations. It hurts that he shuts me out of his life. He was…
Payback – Getting Even With An Ex (Should You?)
Question: “I really enjoy reading your advice so what I’m about to say does not in anyway take away from the love and hard work you put in your site….
Am I Overthinking My Ex’s Words And Actions?
Question: Yangki, my ex says I was more into him than he was into me. In the beginning, he seemed more into me but I think I became needy and…
Cheater Alert: That Friend Isn’t Just A Friend
New research by Albright College associate professor of psychology Susan Hughes, Ph.D., has found that men and women alter their voices when speaking to lovers versus friends and that such…
How Do I Know Someone Is Right For Me?
Question: First of all let me say, I’ve been through almost every post on your blog and every article on your website and I have to say, you really know…
Why Do Men Chase Women Who Are Hard To Get?
Question: I’m a man and like it or not, males chase after females who’re hard to get, or hard to get a hold of. SHE becomes his direction, goal, meaning,…
Men Who Cheat And The Women Who Love Them
Remember all the times you swore, “If a guy cheated on me, I would kick him to the curb. To me that would be a big betrayal, which I don’t…
How Is ‘No Contact’ Selfish If It’s To Protect Myself?
Question: Yangki, cutting off all contact in order to protect and to take care of yourself is not bad. I haven’t contacted my ex for 7 weeks and I feel…
My Ex Says It’s Too Soon To Re-establish Contact
Question: Yangki, what about when she says its too soon to be in contact and when I ask when I can contact her she says, “I don’t know”. She also…
How’ll My Ex Miss Me If He’s Contacting Me?
Question: My ex broke up with me 5 weeks ago. He said he was overwhelmed and needed space. I said okay. Two days later he contacted me asking how I am….
Why Is It That When I Ask A Man Out He’s Less Interested?
Question: I have an impression that whenever I am the one that asks a man out he is less interested or in the moment during a date than a man…
Why Do Men Chase Women Who Are Hard To Get?
Question: I’m a man and like it or not, males chase after females who’re hard to get, or hard to get a hold of. SHE becomes his direction, goal, meaning,…
How Do You Know A Guy Is Into You?
Question: I’m 28 and he’s 37. We met at a bar. The chemistry was instant. I felt that we made a strong emotional connection and really saw into each other’s soul….
World’s Worst and Best Lovers (Men By Country)
A poll carried out by onepoll.com and reported by Telegraph, Daily Mail asked 15,000 women to rate the world’s best and worst lovers by country, the results are interesting. WORLD’S WORST…
Sending and Picking Up Sexual Signals
Have you ever had a friend describe a really “hot” blind date to you, and you get all excited and eager to meet this wonder person only to come face…
Sex Addiction Or High Sex Drive?
While there really is no excuse for infidelity, the growing trend of labeling every man (or woman) who has a sexual libido that is higher than what society has decided…
Blindsided, Emotional Cues Study Findings
Even the happiest couples in exclusive relationships are sometimes clueless when it comes to reading signs that their partner is not happy, is hiding dissatisfaction, disappointment, frustration anger etc. New…
Facebook More Irresistible Than Sex?
Facebook and email trump sex in terms of sheer irresponsibility, a German study says. For one week the phones, provided by the researchers, buzzed seven times daily, alerting study subjects to…
Women Want Sex Men Want To Cuddle
Just when we thought we had the sexual preferences of male and female all figured out and tacked away in little neat stereotypes, someone comes up and messes it all…
The Top Three Most Common Sexual Regrets
According to a new study, men are more likely to regret not taking action on a potential liaison, and women are more remorseful for engaging in one-time liaisons. “Prior sex…
If You Love Someone Should You Tell Them?
If you love someone should you tell him or her? Some of you will say “Yes. absolutely”. But most of you will probably say, “No! It’ll scare them way.” That’s…
Why People Discourage Others And How Not To Let Them
Over the years however, I’ve found that sometimes your station in life determines how many lives you can make better. You can do so much as an individual, but for…
I Will Always Try To Be Ugly
Every now and then we all need to hear words of encouragement to give us that extra push; words of support when we’re passing through a difficult period; words of…
How Do I Make My Anxious-Attachment Ex Feel Safe?
Question: Yangki, my ex is everything you describe about anxiously preoccupied attacher. I broke up with her and she asked for no-contact for 60 days because her therapist told her…
Cheater Alert: That Friend Isn’t Just A Friend
New research by Albright College associate professor of psychology Susan Hughes, Ph.D., has found that men and women alter their voices when speaking to lovers versus friends and that such…
Can A Dismissive-Avoidant Ex Want You Back? (Pt. 1)
Word out there is that dismissive-avoidants are love-avoidant, selfish and narcissistic and therefore must be avoided at all costs. I have been studying anxiously-preoccupied and dismissive-avoidants attachment dynamics for years,…
When Should I Ask My Ex For Another Date?
So you made it through the first date with your ex, now what? Here are some of the key things to remember as you transition from a first date to…
How To Stop The Silent Treatment
Question: We got in a heated argument but after realizing that it was about nothing important, I apologized. We had sex afterwards. Next morning, I woke up and found him…
Are Your Insecurities Turning Off Your Ex?
Man: I’m a short, below-average guy in my 40s attracted to only 8s and 9s beautiful women in their 20s and 30s. I’ve messaged hundreds of them online over the…
Is Your Ego Getting In The Way Of Getting Back Your Ex?
Ask your ex to get back together too soon, and you’ll get “no” or “not now.” Drag it out too long and you end up in the friend zone. But…
30 OMG Signs You’re A Classic Dismissive-Avoidant
1. Connection and closeness make you uncomfortable and/or scare you. 2. Clingy and needy behaviours make you angry and have a low opinion of someone. 3. You don’t see anything…
Should I Say How I Feel When My Ex Talks About Other Guys?
Question: My ex and I agreed that we’d remain friends but it’s getting harder and harder for me when she tells me what a wonderful date she had. I don’t…