Reaching Out to Your Ex – Needy Or Following Your Gut Feeling? Pt.2
Contrary to what most of us have heard or read, not all gut feelings come with that immediate “Aha Moment”. Sometimes, gut feelings are…
How to Respond to An Angry and Hurt Ex – (Clue) Don’t Make Things Worse
Is your ex twisting something you say into something gross and evil? Accusing you of the most despicable things and of sociopathic lying? Telling…
Your Ex Has To Feel Emotionally Connected Then They Will Open Up
To emotionally connect, you have to emotionally connect first, then they will emotionally open up and be engaged or involved. Emotionally connected then opening…
How to Build A Strong Emotional Connection With Your Ex
No relationship starts without some sort of emotional connection, and no relationship can survive without emotional connection. All the advice, techniques and programs to…
Earned Security – How to Make An Anxious Ex Or Avoidant Feel Safe And Secure
Earned secure attachment (ESA) sometimes also referred to as “felt safety” is the story of moving from: Attachment anxiety (struggling not to call too…
Vulnerable Narcissism – Why They Keep You On Facebook, Instagram
Vulnerable Narcissism? Yes, It’s a thing! Grandiose, in-your-face, loud, aggressive and cold-hearted narcissism is what comes to mind when we think of narcissists. But…
Why Do Men Always End Up Dumping Me?
Question: I’m 38, not married but want to be. I’m trying to meet suitable men and I’m successful in the initial stage, but my relationships never…
Payback – Getting Even With An Ex (Should You?)
Question: “I really enjoy reading your advice so what I’m about to say does not in anyway take away from the love and hard…
What Is ‘Active No Contact’ – How Does It Work?
Question: Some coaches advocate absolute no contact (which to me does not feel right) and others advocate something known as ‘Active No contact’. Basically,…
Moving Beyond Co-Dependency – Learning A New Way
Co-dependency is a learned behaviour. This is good news because it means we can learn a new way, a different way of interacting with…
18 Signs Your Ex Is Co-Dependent – Or Maybe You’re Co-Dependent
Co-dependency is a learned behaviour that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects…
Is My Divorced Ex Afraid Of Getting Hurt Again?
Question: Yangki, my ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago due to an argument about his ex-wife. He says he can’t…
Red flags Your Partner Is Not Committed to the Relationship
Many relationships described by the individuals in the relationships as “committed relationships” often are, in reality, uncommitted. While there are as many types of…
10 SIGNS You’re In A Situationship (It’s NOT A Relationship)
A “situationship’ is very much like a relationship. It looks and feels like you are in a relationship and has many of the things…
Can A Dismissive-Avoidant Ex Want You Back? (Pt. 2)
They distance to focus on themselves and what they want (space and autonomy) and to avoid getting caught up in the needs and/or emotions…
Should Religion Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?
Does religion matter in terms of who you are attracted to, date, love or marry? Before I answer that question, a little background on…
Are You Choosing The Wrong Partners?
The reasons we choose the “wrong people” are varied and complex. One thing doesn’t change though. We choose the “wrong” people hoping that we can…
How Do I Respond When My Ex Asks “How Are You”?
Question: My ex sent a text with just “How are you?”. How does one respond when an ex asks how you are doing? Yangki’s…
Avoidant Ex- Why Your Ex Acts Hot And Cold (Pt. 1)
I wrote a long article about how to attract an avoidant ex and many of you have told me you found the series a…
Why Your Ex Thinks You Have Not Changed
You’ve been trying to get back with your ex for a while now but don’t understand why you don’t seem to make any progress….
Should I Tell Her I’m Not Looking For A Serious Relationship?
Question: My ex broke up with me 8 months ago and refuses to speak to me. She has made it very clear that she’s…
Can Dating More Than One Person At The Same Time Make You Less Needy?
Some people find it better to date one person at a time, and when that doesn’t work out, find another one to date. Others…
4 Myths About Soul Mates – BUSTED!
I was one of those people who believed with everything in me that the day I met my soul mate, the ground I was…
Top Lies Men and Women Often Tell Their Partners
The average man tells 1,092 lies a year, compared with 728 fibs a year by females, reports Telegraph. This is according to a new…
Study Finds Least Loving Behaviours Americans Agree On
According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships Americans say controlling or possessive behaviors such as someone wanting to…
On and Off Again Relationship Tips For Getting Back Together
Breaking up and getting back together is not always a sign that the relationship is doomed or toxic. In some cases, breaking up can…
Why Do Men Always End Up Dumping Me?
Question: I’m 38, not married but want to be. I’m trying to meet suitable men and I’m successful in the initial stage, but my relationships never…
9 Love Secrets Your Mama Should’ve Told You
Love is so powerful because it is the closest we ever come to the divine. But if we don’t know what truly makes love…
When Does a Friend Become a Romantic Interest?
Question: I recently met a guy on an online dating site. We chatted for three weeks and in all that time not once did…
How To Show A Guy You’re Attracted To Him
Question: I am an intelligent and independent woman but I can’t seem to master how to approach men without appearing desperate. All the articles and…
Why’s It That When I Ask A Guy Out He’s Less Interested?
Question: I have an impression that whenever I am the one that asks a man out he is less interested or in the moment…
Should Religion Be A Relationship Deal-Breaker?
Does religion matter in terms of who you are attracted to, date, love or marry? Before I answer that question, a little background on…
The Land Where Women Rule!
In the Xiaolianghshan Mountains, Yunnan province (South East China), live the Mosuo people, one of the last living matriarchal societies today. They are closely…
Is Your Ex Indecisive – That May Be A Good Thing
I was talking to a client about how his ex thinks he is the most indecisive person she’s ever met and complains about how…
Chasing After Love – You Need To Read THIS
A fable about a young pup and a very old dog conveys a lesson on love worth learning. Every day the pup chased his…
The Most Attractive Trait Men and Women Look For In A Partner
Do you sometimes wish you knew what you know now when you were younger? I do most of the time. When I was younger,…
Are You Really In Love – How Invested Are You?
In today’s culture, and especially in these hard economic times, many of us are paying more attention to our bank accounts than we’re paying…
20 PLUS True Success Stories – Ex Came Back
11. Tivett’s success story – “Yangki, I want to first of all say thank you. Three months ago, I found your blog and bought your…
My Fearful-Avoidant Ex Pulled Away After 2-Days Of Texting Non-Stop
Question: My ex is what you describe in as fearful-avoidant type and I regret doing no contact but I did it for 40 days…
The TRUTH About How “No Contact” Works In Most Ex Situations
Like so many strategies that create distance rather than connection, “No Contact” is not designed to get back your ex, it’s for you to…