I am happy for you, Nikole… :) I too hope that …

Comment on Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I am happy for you, Nikole… 🙂

I too hope that things move beyond “friends”… I believe you will.

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Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
If by “let go”, you mean “give up”, I shouldn’t decide that for you. It’s your heart… your life.

If you mean, stop asking her out, then yes. In my experience, this usually happens because things have not built up to take it to the next level.

Try to build more emotional momentum before asking her out again.

Unless of course you think your ex is playing mind games.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
Keep the lines of communication open while he figures himself out, but do not try to actively get him back. In other words, keep the door open for possibilities but go about living your life. He may or may not want you back after he’s “unconfused” himself. The open lines of communication helps you keep track of where you stand, so you can decide whether to keep trying or let him go.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
In the book I say do not apologize for your role in the break-up when your ex is not ready to hear you. It doesn’t help in that the apology may come across as a desperate attempt to change your ex’s mind. If you already apologized once, don’t do it too many times because then the apology will be meaningless.

In your case, you made a mistake saying never to contact you again, that’s different from apologizing for your role in the break-up. And you are right, you can’t initiate contact and act like you didn’t say “never contact me”. An apology is necessary.


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Manipulation, pressure, fear… those are topics I have written so many articles about. Without the quote I am unable to point you to the article you are looking for. Sorry!


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The article does not say you should express that you still have feelings for your ex by the second date. It clearly says “By the second date, it should be clear to your ex that you want him/her back”. Very different from “expressing that you still have feelings” on a second date.


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I am glad to be of some sort of help.
All the best!


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Spend a little more time on the site. There is a lot of advice on how to approach getting back someone who says one thing and does another. Read the comments as well, I have responded to many questions with a similar situation as yours.


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All that is addressed in the book… which you just started reading… 😉


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