I am happy for you, Nikole… :) I too hope that …

Comment on Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I am happy for you, Nikole… 🙂

I too hope that things move beyond “friends”… I believe you will.

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Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
If by “let go”, you mean “give up”, I shouldn’t decide that for you. It’s your heart… your life.

If you mean stop asking her out, then yes. In my experience, this usually happens because there is no emotional momentum to take it to the next level. Try to build more momentum before asking her out again. Unless of course you think your ex is playing mind games.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
Keep the lines of communication open while he figures himself out, but do not try to actively get him back. In other words, keep the door open for possibilities but go about living your life. He may or may not want you back after he’s “unconfused” himself. The open lines of communication helps you keep track of where you stand, so you can decide whether to keep trying or let him go.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
In the book I say do not apologize for your role in the break-up when your ex is not ready to hear you. It doesn’t help in that the apology may come across as a desperate attempt to change your ex’s mind. If you already apologized once, don’t do it too many times because then the apology will be meaningless.

In your case, you made a mistake saying never to contact you again, that’s different from apologizing for your role in the break-up. And you are right, you can’t initiate contact and act like you didn’t say “never contact me”. An apology is necessary.


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Since it’s something that was learned – whatever can be learned can be unlearned. The only exception – at least from what I read – is if something happened to your brain to cause you not to be able to have/experience certain feelings the way the rest of us do, then you need more than just “unlearning” the behaviour. Other than that, if you really want to change, you CAN CHANGE!


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What I am saying is, as long as the lines of communication are still open, there is always a possibility he’ll change his mind. It is who you become (new you) and what you do to make the relationship FEEL and BE new and better that makes all the difference.


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