I am happy for you, Nikole… :) I too hope that …

Comment on Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I am happy for you, Nikole… 🙂

I too hope that things move beyond “friends”… I believe you will.

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Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
If by “let go”, you mean “give up”, I shouldn’t decide that for you. It’s your heart… your life.

If you mean, stop asking her out, then yes. In my experience, this usually happens because things have not built up to take it to the next level.

Try to build more emotional momentum before asking her out again.

Unless of course you think your ex is playing mind games.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
Keep the lines of communication open while he figures himself out, but do not try to actively get him back. In other words, keep the door open for possibilities but go about living your life. He may or may not want you back after he’s “unconfused” himself. The open lines of communication helps you keep track of where you stand, so you can decide whether to keep trying or let him go.


Contact and How Not to Pressure Your Ex
In the book I say do not apologize for your role in the break-up when your ex is not ready to hear you. It doesn’t help in that the apology may come across as a desperate attempt to change your ex’s mind. If you already apologized once, don’t do it too many times because then the apology will be meaningless.

In your case, you made a mistake saying never to contact you again, that’s different from apologizing for your role in the break-up. And you are right, you can’t initiate contact and act like you didn’t say “never contact me”. An apology is necessary.


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I sincerely hope things go the way you hope they will. But sometimes it helps to be realistic about these things. You do realize that things could go the opposite direction too — he realizes he could live without you forever. Walking away is NOT the path I would have advised you to take, but since you’re already on it, I suggest that you don’t just spend your days “waiting”. Fill up your life with things that make you happy and positive and whatever happens, happens.

The alternative is to swallow your pride, go back and try to work things from the inside. Get to understand why he says he may never get married, and see if you can help him move past whatever is making him feel that way.


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I don’t think this is about feelings. It’s possible that he still has feelings for you and even still wants all the benefits of being in a relationship, but doesn’t want a “relationship” with you. Depending on how long you’ve been trying and what you have been ding to try to get him back , these words mentioned more than once should not just be brushed off.

I say ask him. If asking him drives him away, he wasn’t going to hang around for too long anyways. You do want to know if it’s worth putting in any more of your time or effort into trying to get him ex back.


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If you know what you’re doing, he’s not going to think you’re desperate. If you don’t on the other hand… you risk coming cross as desperate.


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It simply means he is not happy that you didn’t return his calls/emails. Calling that “caring” is stretching it; angry and caring are two different things. People get angry with people they don’t care about all the time. Anger is not about the other person, it’s about the person who is angry.


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