Comments on: Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.1 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/ Mon, 21 May 2012 23:29:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/#comment-1806 Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor Sun, 13 Feb 2011 22:07:44 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2704#comment-1806 This is how I separate the two... Honest and predictable... A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He picks out a pair of gold earrings but says “no” when the shop attendant asks if she can gift wrap it. Instead he puts the earrings in his pocket. He calls his woman on his cell, “Honey” I know it’s your birthday. I’m at the jewelry store and I just bought you a pair of gold earrings. They cost me 267.83 bucks. I’ll give them to you later at dinner. I reserved us a table at Joe & Kate’s Hideout. At the dinner table he pulls out the gold earrings from his coat pocket, holds them in front of her face and says, “Happy birthday. If you like the earrings you can keep them, if not, I’ll take them back to the store and get back my money”. This guy is 100% honest, but what's wrong with this picture? No intrigue, no hint of fun, no playfulness. Just plain predictable. In relationships that's PC for "boring"... no imagination or creativity. Honest and unpredictable… A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He asks for it to be wrapped to conceal what's inside. He then calls his wife to ask what time she’ll be home. She asks why? He says… with a hint of mystery… “You’ll just have to find out”. She insists, “If you don’t tell me, I won’t be home”. He says, “That’s okay… then I’ll just have to pick you up from wherever you are”. He’s being 100% honest but in a playful way… He’s unpredictable because he knows "HIS VALUE" and is demonstrating it with playful confidence, which is piquing her interest and making her want to find out more… BUT he's also making sure the conversation or experience isn't too confusing, overwhelming or stressful for her. The "unpredictable" part has to feel "good" for it to captivate. It’s called “<a href="http://www.playinghardtogettheloveway.com/" rel="nofollow"><strong>The Delicate art of Playing to Get Caught!</strong>"</a> I hope that helps explain the difference somewhat… This is how I separate the two…

Honest and predictable…

A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He picks out a pair of gold earrings but says “no” when the shop attendant asks if she can gift wrap it. Instead he puts the earrings in his pocket. He calls his woman on his cell, “Honey” I know it’s your birthday. I’m at the jewelry store and I just bought you a pair of gold earrings. They cost me 267.83 bucks. I’ll give them to you later at dinner. I reserved us a table at Joe & Kate’s Hideout. At the dinner table he pulls out the gold earrings from his coat pocket, holds them in front of her face and says, “Happy birthday. If you like the earrings you can keep them, if not, I’ll take them back to the store and get back my money”.

This guy is 100% honest, but what’s wrong with this picture?

No intrigue, no hint of fun, no playfulness. Just plain predictable. In relationships that’s PC for “boring”… no imagination or creativity.

Honest and unpredictable…

A guy goes to a store to buy his woman a birthday gift. He asks for it to be wrapped to conceal what’s inside. He then calls his wife to ask what time she’ll be home. She asks why? He says… with a hint of mystery… “You’ll just have to find out”. She insists, “If you don’t tell me, I won’t be home”. He says, “That’s okay… then I’ll just have to pick you up from wherever you are”.

He’s being 100% honest but in a playful way… He’s unpredictable because he knows “HIS VALUE” and is demonstrating it with playful confidence, which is piquing her interest and making her want to find out more… BUT he’s also making sure the conversation or experience isn’t too confusing, overwhelming or stressful for her. The “unpredictable” part has to feel “good” for it to captivate.

It’s called “The Delicate art of Playing to Get Caught!“

I hope that helps explain the difference somewhat…

]]> By: Ashlee http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/#comment-1804 Ashlee Sun, 13 Feb 2011 21:37:53 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2704#comment-1804 I've been very predictable in my past relationships and that has not worked for me at all. I just keep confusing honesty with predictability. Can you help please? I’ve been very predictable in my past relationships and that has not worked for me at all. I just keep confusing honesty with predictability. Can you help please?

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/#comment-799 The Love Doctor Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:22:43 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2704#comment-799 Most of us try to be “someone’s else best” because we see that that’s what makes them attractive to others, the problem is that we are not them. I agree that increasing your confidence will help. The other thing that’ll help is allowing yourself to freely express the “goodness” you know is inside of you, but first you’ve to get in touch with that “goodness” and then confidently express it. That’ll be the focus of the next posts on this series. Most of us try to be “someone’s else best” because we see that that’s what makes them attractive to others, the problem is that we are not them. I agree that increasing your confidence will help. The other thing that’ll help is allowing yourself to freely express the “goodness” you know is inside of you, but first you’ve to get in touch with that “goodness” and then confidently express it. That’ll be the focus of the next posts on this series.

]]> By: Viola http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/#comment-795 Viola Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:14:09 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2704#comment-795 I always feel like I'm the one trying to do the work that a relationship needs and guys just enjoy the ride then get out. I have a lot of great qualities, yet I just haven't been able to feel happy without someone. I need to love myself first and fore most and stop letting myself be walked on and taken for granted in relationships. I always feel like I’m the one trying to do the work that a relationship needs and guys just enjoy the ride then get out. I have a lot of great qualities, yet I just haven’t been able to feel happy without someone. I need to love myself first and fore most and stop letting myself be walked on and taken for granted in relationships.

]]> By: Sam35 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-ones-you-love-dont-love-you-back-pt-1/#comment-794 Sam35 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:27:22 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2704#comment-794 I really appreciate your knowledge. I’m 35 years old and the issues you mention in your post surface in my life again and again. I think this is one of the reasons I’m always trying to be as good as the people I’m attracted to. This also hurts in relationships because I look to others to make me feel good about myself. I believe that bringing up my confidence level will help my cause. I really appreciate your knowledge. I’m 35 years old and the issues you mention in your post surface in my life again and again. I think this is one of the reasons I’m always trying to be as good as the people I’m attracted to. This also hurts in relationships because I look to others to make me feel good about myself. I believe that bringing up my confidence level will help my cause.

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