Comments on: Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.4 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/ Mon, 21 May 2012 23:29:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Betsy http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-1340 Betsy Tue, 10 Aug 2010 16:06:05 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-1340 The quote from Anais Nin really hit home for me. I was married for 27 years to a man who struggled with loving himself for who he was. We worked very hard to keep our love alive everyday. After he passed away I met a man who showered me with so much attention I thought this is would be the same, but all the attention was short lived because he could not think about "us" he was still thinking about "him" and how to meet his needs through me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. The quote from Anais Nin really hit home for me. I was married for 27 years to a man who struggled with loving himself for who he was. We worked very hard to keep our love alive everyday. After he passed away I met a man who showered me with so much attention I thought this is would be the same, but all the attention was short lived because he could not think about “us” he was still thinking about “him” and how to meet his needs through me. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-1026 The Love Doctor Thu, 04 Mar 2010 11:17:58 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-1026 Would you please email me datingcoach@sympatico.ca on which articles you'd like to copy. Would you please email me datingcoach@sympatico.ca on which articles you’d like to copy.

]]> By: Saila Peneman http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-1025 Saila Peneman Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:03:32 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-1025 Hi, Today I have been reading some of your articles and have found them very instructive and interesting. I tried to copy and keep them on my computer, but a sign came up saying,"Why steal, ask me.' So, I would like to ask you to allow me to copy the ones I like. I will keep them exclusively for personal use. I do not have, neither have I had in the past, nor will I have the in future any website or weblogg. I am 75 years old and I am aware and repect copy right laws.If you wonder why a 75-year old is interested in "love articles", perhaps if I say I'm a Gemini would help. Thank you very much! Hi,

Today I have been reading some of your articles and have found them very instructive and interesting. I tried to copy and keep them on my computer, but a sign came up saying,”Why steal, ask me.’

So, I would like to ask you to allow me to copy the ones I like. I will keep them exclusively for personal use. I do not have, neither have I had in the past, nor will I have the in future any website or weblogg.

I am 75 years old and I am aware and repect copy right laws.If you wonder why a 75-year old is interested in “love articles”, perhaps if I say I’m a Gemini would help. Thank you very much!

]]> By: David http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-996 David Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:38:07 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-996 It sucks that I had to lose the love of my life to learn this sad lesson. I was a complete jerk. I wish I could go back and change everything. It sucks that I had to lose the love of my life to learn this sad lesson. I was a complete jerk. I wish I could go back and change everything.

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-992 The Love Doctor Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:38:53 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-992 My new fan! Stew all you want, just make sure you don’t break any laws - God’s laws or man’s laws... :) The important thing is that you LET GO (some time) and open yourself to love again. My new fan! Stew all you want, just make sure you don’t break any laws – God’s laws or man’s laws… :) The important thing is that you LET GO (some time) and open yourself to love again.

]]> By: Chandra http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-991 Chandra Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:32:10 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-991 I know I can’t get back my 4 years and even money, but can I at least stew in my anger a few more weeks, months? You’re not being mean at all. I’m responsible for “forgetting” myself”. It’s been a pattern in all my relationships. I was raised by parents who were both alcoholics and learned so very early in life to ignore my own needs and what I want and put theirs above mine. It was the only way I got any resemblance of love from my parents. It’s time I broke the toxic pattern. Thank you for being honest and not just padding my ego :) Your new fan! I know I can’t get back my 4 years and even money, but can I at least stew in my anger a few more weeks, months?

You’re not being mean at all. I’m responsible for “forgetting” myself”. It’s been a pattern in all my relationships. I was raised by parents who were both alcoholics and learned so very early in life to ignore my own needs and what I want and put theirs above mine. It was the only way I got any resemblance of love from my parents. It’s time I broke the toxic pattern. Thank you for being honest and not just padding my ego :)

Your new fan!

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-990 The Love Doctor Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:22:30 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-990 Sorry, I don’t know how you get back the 4 years and thousands of my dollars... I do however know that at some point you have to let this go to make room for another experience that might be fulfilling and better, provided you learned the lesson there was to learn. You can’t get back 4 years of your life and you may never get back your thousands of dollars but don’t give him more than he’s already taken... PS: Not to be mean here, but you do have to take some responsibility for “forgetting yourself” and making it all about him. He didn’t make you do that, you did it to yourself. Sorry, I don’t know how you get back the 4 years and thousands of my dollars…

I do however know that at some point you have to let this go to make room for another experience that might be fulfilling and better, provided you learned the lesson there was to learn. You can’t get back 4 years of your life and you may never get back your thousands of dollars but don’t give him more than he’s already taken…

PS: Not to be mean here, but you do have to take some responsibility for “forgetting yourself” and making it all about him. He didn’t make you do that, you did it to yourself.

]]> By: Chandra http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-989 Chandra Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:08:06 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-989 My ex died to me the day he told me he didn't love me and didn't want me anymore. I gave this man everything I could possibly give anyone and this is what I get? This experience has taught me that not to give where giving is undeserved and unappreciated. Now can anyone tell me how I go about getting back the 4 years of my life and the thousands of my dollars I wasted on someone so ungrateful and selfish? My ex died to me the day he told me he didn’t love me and didn’t want me anymore. I gave this man everything I could possibly give anyone and this is what I get? This experience has taught me that not to give where giving is undeserved and unappreciated. Now can anyone tell me how I go about getting back the 4 years of my life and the thousands of my dollars I wasted on someone so ungrateful and selfish?

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-987 The Love Doctor Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:45:16 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-987 It’s unfortunate what you are going through. I have to give you a lot of credit for recognizing that you’re the only one to blame for your actions and nobody else. I also give you a lot of respect for taking “time out” to work on yourself instead of jumping into another relationship right away and hurting another unsuspecting person. I hope you get the second chance your heart desires. It’s unfortunate what you are going through. I have to give you a lot of credit for recognizing that you’re the only one to blame for your actions and nobody else. I also give you a lot of respect for taking “time out” to work on yourself instead of jumping into another relationship right away and hurting another unsuspecting person.

I hope you get the second chance your heart desires.

]]> By: Ryan http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-4/#comment-985 Ryan Sun, 21 Feb 2010 09:50:54 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2987#comment-985 My wife left 2 weeks ago. She was a good woman who put up with my self-centered expectations and demands for 7 whole years. I did not value her and did only what benefited me and only me. I have only myself to blame for her leaving. I’d give anything to make it up to her and show her how much she means to me but right now I know I’m not the best partner for her or for any other woman for that matter. I’m doing a lot of soul searching and fortunate to have found your blog. This article speaks to the core of my soul. My ultimate goal is to get her back but if I don’t, the next woman will not have to go through what my ex went through with me. My wife left 2 weeks ago. She was a good woman who put up with my self-centered expectations and demands for 7 whole years. I did not value her and did only what benefited me and only me. I have only myself to blame for her leaving. I’d give anything to make it up to her and show her how much she means to me but right now I know I’m not the best partner for her or for any other woman for that matter. I’m doing a lot of soul searching and fortunate to have found your blog. This article speaks to the core of my soul. My ultimate goal is to get her back but if I don’t, the next woman will not have to go through what my ex went through with me.

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