Comments on: Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.3 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/ Mon, 21 May 2012 23:29:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Paula http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-1078 Paula Tue, 30 Mar 2010 05:24:42 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-1078 I enjoyed this too...I think that when my b/f told me something was missing and he's been trying very hard to figure it out but he also told me that he isn't going anywhere. I do believe the problem is me. I've thought that for a while. I am too analytical, but try not to let him see that, but maybe I am inadvertently letting him see my insecurities. I have enjoyed reading this so far..I truly want this relationship to work, he is everything I have ever wanted. I enjoyed this too…I think that when my b/f told me something was missing and he’s been trying very hard to figure it out but he also told me that he isn’t going anywhere. I do believe the problem is me. I’ve thought that for a while. I am too analytical, but try not to let him see that, but maybe I am inadvertently letting him see my insecurities.
I have enjoyed reading this so far..I truly want this relationship to work, he is everything I have ever wanted.

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-1037 The Love Doctor Sat, 13 Mar 2010 14:16:16 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-1037 It’ll only be extended heartbreak if you put your life on “hold” or push this to happen in your timeframe. But if you live your life, doing the things that are important to you and which you enjoy (with or without her) and if you can get more days like “today” where you enjoy each other’s company with no “pressure” to get back together or even make her “fall IN love” with you, and like she says if it happens in the future that's up to fate. She still loves you and misses you - PLUS you have the “best friends” advantage, don’t screw this up with your own internal pressure to “get her back” before she’s ready... It’ll only be extended heartbreak if you put your life on “hold” or push this to happen in your timeframe. But if you live your life, doing the things that are important to you and which you enjoy (with or without her) and if you can get more days like “today” where you enjoy each other’s company with no “pressure” to get back together or even make her “fall IN love” with you, and like she says if it happens in the future that’s up to fate.

She still loves you and misses you – PLUS you have the “best friends” advantage, don’t screw this up with your own internal pressure to “get her back” before she’s ready…

]]> By: Matt http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-1036 Matt Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:20:56 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-1036 Thank you for replying we spoke today, and I asked her if she could give me a chance to prove these things, she said that I still don't understand, she needs to be alone to find herself, that she has been with someone since she was 14, always filing her life with another partner. She said she loves me, and misses me all the time, but she can't be IN love right now, and if it happens in the future that's up to fate. We spent the day together as we are still best friends, and when I got home she texted me saying thank you for talking, wonderful day, just too early to think about these things. I know the solution may seem easy, but I don't want to screw this up, it's so very important to me. I can wait as long as it takes, but I'm not sure how to define if it's really worth it, or I'm just heading for extended heartbreak. I appologise for the long comment... Thank you in advance Thank you for replying

we spoke today, and I asked her if she could give me a chance to prove these things, she said that I still don’t understand, she needs to be alone to find herself, that she has been with someone since she was 14, always filing her life with another partner. She said she loves me, and misses me all the time, but she can’t be IN love right now, and if it happens in the future that’s up to fate. We spent the day together as we are still best friends, and when I got home she texted me saying thank you for talking, wonderful day, just too early to think about these things. I know the solution may seem easy, but I don’t want to screw this up, it’s so very important to me. I can wait as long as it takes, but I’m not sure how to define if it’s really worth it, or I’m just heading for extended heartbreak. I appologise for the long comment… Thank you in advance

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-1035 The Love Doctor Fri, 12 Mar 2010 11:49:49 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-1035 There is not ONE approach because making someone feel loved and fun and happy involves doing many different things on many different fronts. In your other comment you say you have my eBook Dating Your Ex. The following chapters (approx. 70 pages) all deal with dating an ex in a way that is meaningful, emotional bonding and fun - all working gradually towards actually getting back together (and staying together): 1) re-entering your ex’s life 2) the right time to ask for another chance 3) direct vs. indirect request 4) how to talk about getting back together 5) being friends to start with 6) the pulling and pushing phase 7) starting afresh Of course what’s meaningful, emotional bonding and fun is different from woman to woman, so you have to really know what appeals to your particular one other wise doing the generic stuff won’t get you far. It may even confirm to her that you just don’t GET HER (and may never) and that seals your fate. If you need help figuring out what will work for your woman, I’m happy to work with you. There is not ONE approach because making someone feel loved and fun and happy involves doing many different things on many different fronts. In your other comment you say you have my eBook Dating Your Ex. The following chapters (approx. 70 pages) all deal with dating an ex in a way that is meaningful, emotional bonding and fun – all working gradually towards actually getting back together (and staying together):

1) re-entering your ex’s life
2) the right time to ask for another chance
3) direct vs. indirect request
4) how to talk about getting back together
5) being friends to start with
6) the pulling and pushing phase
7) starting afresh

Of course what’s meaningful, emotional bonding and fun is different from woman to woman, so you have to really know what appeals to your particular one other wise doing the generic stuff won’t get you far. It may even confirm to her that you just don’t GET HER (and may never) and that seals your fate. If you need help figuring out what will work for your woman, I’m happy to work with you.

]]> By: Matt http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-1034 Matt Fri, 12 Mar 2010 02:55:37 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-1034 thank you so much for your books and this website! My girl left nearly 2 weeks ago, because she felt something was "missing", that we havent really been working through any issues for months. Looking back i can see this is true, but i also believe what we have is special, and that she is the one. I have been working on myself this whole time, and plan to continue with it. She believes that she needs to get over me, but id like to ask her to give me a try at making her feel loved and fun and happy again, by actually dating (we missed this step the first time) and just having fun maybe once or twice a week, before she does that. How do you recommend i approach this? thank you so much for your books and this website!

My girl left nearly 2 weeks ago, because she felt something was “missing”, that we havent really been working through any issues for months. Looking back i can see this is true, but i also believe what we have is special, and that she is the one. I have been working on myself this whole time, and plan to continue with it. She believes that she needs to get over me, but id like to ask her to give me a try at making her feel loved and fun and happy again, by actually dating (we missed this step the first time) and just having fun maybe once or twice a week, before she does that. How do you recommend i approach this?

]]> By: Nathan http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-993 Nathan Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:56:23 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-993 This is really good! Such a good site! This is really good! Such a good site!

]]> By: Dan from Holland http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-885 Dan from Holland Mon, 01 Feb 2010 06:56:42 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-885 I stumbled on your blog following a link from one of your articles. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself who need answers fast and are not sure who to ask. Keep up the good work. I stumbled on your blog following a link from one of your articles. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself who need answers fast and are not sure who to ask. Keep up the good work.

]]> By: Rahul http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-the-man-or-woman-you-love-doesn%e2%80%99t-want-you-pt-3-2/#comment-880 Rahul Sat, 30 Jan 2010 18:01:55 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2888#comment-880 I can’t wait for the next part. I'M LOVIN' IT! I can’t wait for the next part. I’M LOVIN’ IT!

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