Sometimes life does give us second chances… Until someone makes it …

Comment on Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

Sometimes life does give us second chances…

Until someone makes it so clear that it is indeed “O-V-E-R” (not swinging back and forth) or is happy in a new relationship, there is always a chance to do it right the second time round.

The catch is that you have to be well positioned to take that chance — or you’ll blow it!

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Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You
All those are possibilities. But you are only seeing things from “something is “wrong” with him. There is also the possibility that he felt suffocated, had doubts abut marrying you, or felt the relationship wasn’t right for him.

When you look at things more objectively, you have a better chance of finding the right solution than when you have tunnel vision/or listening only to the advice of your “girlfriends”. They mean well, but it doesn’t help you relationship.

Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You
It’s frustrating when you are doing all this changing and growing but if it’s not working. If part of why you broke up in the first place is because your ex thought you were “self -centered” then it’s only natural that she still sees your efforts in that light. It’ll take a lot of selflessly showing – consistently and over a period of time – that you have genuinely changed for her to believe the changes.

This takes time and patience. Anything that feels like putting pressure on her to “see that you’ve changed” is going to backfire. Ultimately, if she’s going to come back to you, it’ll be because SHE WANTS to and not because YOU MADE her do it.

Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You
Yes, it’s possible. Sometimes two people in a relationship grow and change together, and sometimes they grow and change, and can no longer be together.

On the surface it may appear that the feeling that you are no longer compatible happened suddenly, but in reality it happened over a period of time. She may have woken up one morning and the realization hit her… “we want different things!”

It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you (or your ex for that matter). It just means you grew apart.

Recent Comments by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Do Exes Really Ever Come Back?

You are easy to love, Angie. It makes sense he’s back so soon.

Don’t thank me, thank YOU. Okay, me a little… 🙂

Much love back at you!

How to Stop Fighting and Get Back Your Ex
This article will help: Should You Tell Someone How You Truly Feel?

10 Signs Your Ex Does NOT WANT You Back
Please click on this link. It has all the information you need for scheduling your appointment.

Looking forward to being of help.

What I Need Space Really Means
I appreciate you asking and thank you for your support.

As indicated in the FAQs about coaching, it’s not personal or a judgement against someone under 25. It’s just that I have a lot more success (and therefore more experience) working with men and women 25 years and older. I do not want to risk someone’s chances of getting back their ex because of my lack of experience with that age group.

Do Exes Really Ever Come Back?
I am rooting for you… 🙂

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