Comments on: Why Men Get Jealous Over Sex & Women Over Emotions http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-men-get-jealous-over-sex-women-over-emotions/ Mon, 21 May 2012 23:29:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-men-get-jealous-over-sex-women-over-emotions/#comment-1929 Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor Fri, 18 Mar 2011 15:48:39 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2993#comment-1929 I don't recall why I asked you that question or even that I did (I talk to hundreds of people a week, it's hard to remember every single conversation), but if I did, it had to be within context and specific to your situation. The answer to where you go from here would also have to be within context and in response to your unique situation. Since at this moment I don't recall our conversation, I'm hesitant to give a "generalized" answer to a specific situation. Also you are quoting a research and not something I personally wrote, I'd have to talk to you again about your situation to be able to make the same connection that you have made with the research findings. Short of that, any advice I offer will be coming from me pretending to be a "know it all". I don’t recall why I asked you that question or even that I did (I talk to hundreds of people a week, it’s hard to remember every single conversation), but if I did, it had to be within context and specific to your situation. The answer to where you go from here would also have to be within context and in response to your unique situation. Since at this moment I don’t recall our conversation, I’m hesitant to give a “generalized” answer to a specific situation. Also you are quoting a research and not something I personally wrote, I’d have to talk to you again about your situation to be able to make the same connection that you have made with the research findings. Short of that, any advice I offer will be coming from me pretending to be a “know it all”.

]]> By: James G. http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/why-men-get-jealous-over-sex-women-over-emotions/#comment-1926 James G. Fri, 18 Mar 2011 02:26:24 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2993#comment-1926 "...while others tend to be more dismissive of the need for close attachment relationships. Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy-protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability. The researchers hypothesized that these individuals would tend to be concerned with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy. Those with a dismissing attachment style, who prize their autonomy in relationships over commitment, were much more upset about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity." Christine, in our phone session you asked me why I kept my ex at arm's length and never really allowed myself to get too attached until I felt I was losing her. I think this may be why. The parts I quoted above seem especially relevant. While reading this, I felt like it was describing me. Kind of a sobering revelation. The question is, where do I go from here? “…while others tend to be more dismissive of the need for close attachment relationships. Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy-protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability.

The researchers hypothesized that these individuals would tend to be concerned with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy.

Those with a dismissing attachment style, who prize their autonomy in relationships over commitment, were much more upset about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity.”

Christine, in our phone session you asked me why I kept my ex at arm’s length and never really allowed myself to get too attached until I felt I was losing her. I think this may be why. The parts I quoted above seem especially relevant. While reading this, I felt like it was describing me. Kind of a sobering revelation. The question is, where do I go from here?

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