Comments on: Why Is My Ex Contacting Me?

By: Zach

Zach — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 01:46:13 +0000

You are absolutely right. She’s the kind of person who will start a fight just for the attention. Her constant drama and unwarranted attacks are the reason we broke up. Crazy defintely came back, lol. Thank you for your wise advice.

By: Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 01:21:18 +0000

Sometimes after a break-up people do act a little crazy. If you love someone and had a relatively good relationship, cut them some slack.

The problem in your case is that crazy came back. The 3 months didn’t change anything. She’s still hurting and her angry emails are her way to get some kind of reaction from you. When people are in that state, any reaction — even an angry one — is better than no reaction at all. So you are right, if you respond, it’ll only encourage her to text you because that’s the only way she can maintain some sort of “connection” to you. If you don’t respond, after a while she’ll accept her new reality and work on moving on.

By: Zach

Zach — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 00:27:32 +0000

My ex went crazy on me after the break-up. After 2 weeks of non-stop tearful calls etc, I didn’t hear from her again. 3 months of not hearing from her, and then I receive a sweet text asking me how I have been, didn’t reply. A couple of days later, she texts me telling me she really misses me, still didn’t reply. Another text saying if I didn’t want to hear from her again, she’d leave me alone, didn’t reply that one too. Now she’s sending me very angry texts. She also sent an angry text to the woman I’m now dating. Part of me wants to reply and tell her to get over it and move on, but another part of me says, if I respond, it’ll only escalate the abusive behavior towards both of us. Any suggestions on how to better handle this situation? I value your advice very much.

By: Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 21:12:16 +0000

Move on. You blew her off and she said goodbye. What else is there to do? Unless of course you are willing to swallow your pride and go back on “it’s what is best”. I honestly don’t understand why people like you do things that are against your own best interest…

By: Pat

Pat — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 18:40:03 +0000

I have been in no contact for 4 weeks and just this morning got a text from her saying “I hate that it has to be all or nothing” I replied that it’s what is best and she replied “Well, goodbye then.” What do I do now?

By: Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 22:07:25 +0000

Both. You were probably needy before the breakup and thought “No Contact” would fix it. She contacted you because she didn’t like feeling rejected by you. When you responded she knew you still had feelings for her and is playing you like a fiddle. You on the other hand, are still the needy guy (nothing changed even with no contact). I’m tempted to think that her ignoring you is payback for you ignoring her the 5 times she contacted you. That’s what you get with mind games… more of the same.

By: Alexjn

Alexjn — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 21:23:58 +0000

My ex contacted me 5 times during the time I was in no contact. She said she missed me so much and wants to be in contact with me again. After the 5th text, I gave in and told her I missed her too. We started contact but now I’m the only one always texting and calling her. She replies after a while but she never initiates contact. She posts on her FB photos of her having a good time and she flirts with other guys that comment. But when I comment, she ignores me. I have complained to her about it but she says I’m just being needy and oversensitive. Is it really me being needy and oversensitive or is she playing with me? What do you think?

By: Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:21:02 +0000

I think that when he texted you he really meant what he said but then realized you wanted to play some stupid game instead, and was put off. You’ve texted him too many times already, give it a few days and he doesn’t contact you, contact him with an apology (that’s if you really mean it about stopping the game playing). Sometimes when we come clean we get a second chance… it is a risk but one worth taking.

By: Paige

Paige — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 02:02:04 +0000

I think I really blew it with my ex. He broke up wit me then texted me 2 days later saying he wanted to see how i was doing. I got this advice not to text back. Then 3 days later i felt really bad for not replying his text and texted him saying i was doing fine and everything was so great. He texted back right away saying he was glad to hear that and apologized for hurting me. I was at my friend’s party when i got the text so I texted “i’m really having a good time at the party”, he texted back “great, enjoy” I texted back “sorry it was for someone else” and he texted back “it’s ok. take care.”

I texted him 2 more time and he never responded. I again texted him the next day no response. What should I do? I love him and I don’t want to play these games again. Please help.

By: Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng

Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 19:10:29 +0000

I think you are asking the wrong question. The right questions should be: Do you want him back?

If he’s asked for forgiveness, give it to him for your own sake, not his. Then decide for yourself if you want him back or not. If you want him back, I suggest you take things very slow so you can see if he’s changed or not. Some exes pretend to be “sorry” just because they don’t feel good about being rejected. Once they have you back they go back to their old ways or worse, break up with you so it feels like they are the one’s that rejected you.