Question: My ex sent me a text after months of no contact. I texted her back and asked if I can call her. We talked for 4 hours. She said she missed me and it’d be nice to see each other again. I told her I missed her too and wanted to see her again. I haven’t heard from her since that day. I’ve texted, emailed and called but no response. It’s been 10 days. I know she’s seeing someone and just don’t understand why she contacted me, said she missed me and wanted to see me again. I’m feeling crashed.
Yangki’s Answer: If it helps at all, what you’re going through happens to a lot of people (unfortunately). There are several reasons an ex would contact you out of the blue and then goes quiet again or completely disappears.
1) She just wanted to see if you still had feelings for her (ego trip);
2) If she dumped you, she may have felt some guilt and was concerned about how you were doing;
3) She was feeling lonely or bored (or both) and impulsively contacted you with no real interest in re-opening the lines of communication or even getting back together;
4) She genuinely missed you and contacted you thinking that she was ready for re-engagement but realized she was not;
5) She still wants to see you again but something important that has nothing to do with you came up.
It could be any one of these reasons or none. It’s why it’s always wise not read too much into one or even 3 sporadic contacts from an ex.
In this case, no point in trying to contact her again. Wait for her to contact you again and if she does, ask her a direct question, e.g. “Is this a mind game you are playing?”
Someone who is not playing a mind game and is genuinely trying to build a relationship will try to reassure you it’s not. Someone who is playing a mind game will most likely not respond and disappear again, or will respond and pretend she does not know what you are talking about.
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