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Comment on 10 Signs: A Relationship Vs. Casually Dating by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

Hakuna Matata (no worries)… 🙂

You work together so you should at least know –from direct experience and from co-worker accounts — if she’s the kind to play guys just for the fun of it.

It’s possible that this is her idea of “playing hard to get”. She probably thinks the first two dates came “cheap” and is raising the stakes just to see what you’re made of.

The fact that she’s being flirtatious and makes sure you know she likes you means she’s trying to keep your interest alive. Try asking her out again, and see what she says.

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Is NC for you to move on or to try to make him miss you?

If it’s to move on, it makes sense. You barely knew each other anyways. But if it’s to try and get him back, I don’t think going NC will make him miss you. The chances of him contacting you are almost zero, and the chances of him responding to contact after a prolonged period of no contact aren’t that good either. It’s just one of those things that happen with very brief relationships.

It seems to me that you were too needy, or pushed things too fast too soon and overwhelmed him.


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