How To Make Yourself Special To Someone

When it comes to relationships, there will always be another man or woman waiting to take your place. That’s something you have no control over.

The secret to making sure that you remain the man or woman he or she wants to  be with is to set yourself apart as one-of-a-kind.

Whether one admits it or not, we human beings take “pride” in knowing that we have what nobody else has. Whether it is talent, skill, material goods or people we are associated with, there is satisfaction in knowing we’re some how “special” because we have something that no one else has. By being that “something that no one else has” to someone else, we’re perceived to be of high quality and therefore in demand — or at least that’s how the human mind sees it.

The problem is that many of us do not believe that we are “one-of-a-kind”, and those of us who believe we are unique, do not know how to demonstrate that we are “one-of-a-kind” unlike any other.

Instead of building on our natural quality of being “unlike any other”, we buy into ads, advice and techniques that make us “just like everybody else”. We dress like the next girl, talk “the game” like the next guy and play the part of “every man” and “every woman”. In the process, we lose that “one-of-a-kind” quality and with it our natural flow with the Law of Scarcity.

All we’re left with is to try to “influence” and interfere with the Law of Scarcity by limiting physical supply (disappearing acts or denying intimacy), emotional supply (withholding feelings) and mental supply (mental mind games etc), which works in a commodity market, but not so well in relationships. The reason this works in a commodity market and not in relationships is because in a commodity market, one can actually control supply (how much is produced or released to the market).

The scariest part of not believing that we are “one-of-a-kind” or not knowing how to demonstrate that we are “one-of-a-kind” is when another man or woman enters the picture. We  panic, get jealous and sometimes (out of fear) end the relationship. We  feel that the other person is “better” than us when most of the time, the only reason they are better than us is in their ability to demonstrate that they are “one-of-a-kind”.

It’s important, crucial and absolutely vital that you make that person feel that they have something that no one else has — YOU!

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  • I really like your advice. My ex used to say there was “no one else like me” and she was lucky to have me. But that changed and we ended up breaking up. The question is, how does one show an ex that they have something that no one else has? I mean, they had time to figure out on their own that you are one-of-a-kind but broke up with you anyway

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    • Good question. It’s hard — and a really bad idea to play hard to get with someone who shows no interest in wanting to play. I’ve had people after being dumped ask if they should play hard to get… and I’m like, “with who?”

      Running around pretending someone is chasing you when nobody is chasing you or playing hide-and-seek with someone who is not participating is plain stupidity.

      The person has to show that they want to “know” more about you for them to be able to see how you are one-of-a-kind. It’s even more complicated with an ex because you’ve been together and an ex may assume (sometimes correctly) that there is nothing more to “know” about you.

      Start with working on yourself to become more of you, so you have something “new” for your ex to “see”. Also before you start playing hard to get make sure you’ve slowly built up interest to the point that an ex is once again curious about you.

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