Comments on: Strange Bedfellows – Why Are You With Him or Her? http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/strange-bedfellows-why-are-you-with-him-or-her/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:37:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Karen http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/strange-bedfellows-why-are-you-with-him-or-her/#comment-899 Karen Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:35:44 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2852#comment-899 He wants to go back to his ex wife. he's not sure if he really wants too.. he has dated other women before me and told them the same thing. He wants to go back to his ex wife. he’s not sure if he really wants too.. he has dated other women before me and told them the same thing.

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/strange-bedfellows-why-are-you-with-him-or-her/#comment-876 The Love Doctor Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:38:01 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2852#comment-876 Honeybird45, I’m happy for you for taking responsibility for your own happiness.… :) I personally happen to believe that you should be with someone you love and who loves you back regardless of race, religion or culture. I know tons of people dating/in relationships/married outside of their own race, religion and culture and very happy and fulfilled. Differences in race, religion and culture are usually not even a problem if two understand and relate to each other's differences and/or compromise those differences in ways that ensure their longevity with each other. The toxicity I am talking about in this post is a dynamic within a relationship and not about what outsiders think. It is where the driving force behind the attraction is race, religion and culture etc. The person who selects based on race, religion or culture does not make an effort to appreciate/acknowledge the uniqueness of the individual man/woman he/she is with. And the other person may be aware that he/she is only liked/wanted for his/her race, religion or culture. Honeybird45, I’m happy for you for taking responsibility for your own happiness.… :)

I personally happen to believe that you should be with someone you love and who loves you back regardless of race, religion or culture. I know tons of people dating/in relationships/married outside of their own race, religion and culture and very happy and fulfilled. Differences in race, religion and culture are usually not even a problem if two understand and relate to each other’s differences and/or compromise those differences in ways that ensure their longevity with each other.

The toxicity I am talking about in this post is a dynamic within a relationship and not about what outsiders think. It is where the driving force behind the attraction is race, religion and culture etc. The person who selects based on race, religion or culture does not make an effort to appreciate/acknowledge the uniqueness of the individual man/woman he/she is with. And the other person may be aware that he/she is only liked/wanted for his/her race, religion or culture.

]]> By: Misty http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/strange-bedfellows-why-are-you-with-him-or-her/#comment-875 Misty Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:33:55 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2852#comment-875 You should not be told by anyone who you can and cannot date, fall in love, or marry. That is up to you. You should not be told by anyone who you can and cannot date, fall in love, or marry. That is up to you.

]]> By: Honeybird45 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/strange-bedfellows-why-are-you-with-him-or-her/#comment-874 Honeybird45 Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:33:40 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2852#comment-874 #5. The “Exotic” Relationship I think some people need to stop caring so much about what other people think. I married my first husband because he fitted the "traditional" mold. The marriage was the worst 8 years of my life. This time I intentionally went for someone who does not fit the "traditional" white conservative male my parents and friends expect for me. He is of a different race, religion and culture, and guess what? It’s the happiest I’ve ever been in a relationship. I still have to constantly think about what I say/do because I am afraid that something would be taken the wrong way but I see it as being a huge part of love. #5. The “Exotic” Relationship
I think some people need to stop caring so much about what other people think. I married my first husband because he fitted the “traditional” mold. The marriage was the worst 8 years of my life. This time I intentionally went for someone who does not fit the “traditional” white conservative male my parents and friends expect for me. He is of a different race, religion and culture, and guess what? It’s the happiest I’ve ever been in a relationship. I still have to constantly think about what I say/do because I am afraid that something would be taken the wrong way but I see it as being a huge part of love.

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