How To Show Your Ex You Want To Start Over – Pt 2

keep-lines-of-communication-withThe real great thing about this approach is that unlike “no contact” or “giving space”, the lines of communication remain open and the connection you have is not interrupted or negatively impacted. You have a smooth transition from the old relationship to the new relationship. Something very hard to do with “giving space” which requires you to re-open lines of communication. After a break from each other, you may find that the lines of communication have been permanently closed.

I’ve seen happen a lot, and you may have experienced it yourself. You take a break from talking or seeing each other and when you reconnect it feels great and promising. You missed each other so much and happy to be talking/seeing each other again. Then you have just one disagreement or even no disagreement at all, your ex starts pulling way. He/she talks to you less, and when they do respond, you get the feeling he/she is just being polite or just rude and mean. Why?

This is because you took a break from each other, and when you reconnected things continued from where they ended. You basically picked up the old relationship (with it all the good and bad) where you paused it. It didn’t take long for things to start feeling like before, and for your ex to realize that nothing has changed.

I have also seem (more cases than I frankly would like) where after time away from each other, your ex insists on wanting to be alone/single for a while. You find that they don’t want to be in a relationship anymore, they want to explore what else is out there or they want to focus on their career, work, or self-improvement.

You’d hoped that the time away from each other would make your ex realize how much they love you, miss you and want to be with you, but instead the time away from you made him/her realize that they are happier single than they were in a relationship with you, or realize that they can do better.

The chances of that happening when the lines of communications are open, when you are not dragging the old relationship to the present, and creating new feelings and better memories is minimal.

So if your ex is saying, “I don’t want to talk about the old relationship” or is threatening to cut off communication because you keep trying to bring up the break-up or old relationship, he/she is not saying “give me space” or go away for a while, what he/she is saying is: “I don’t want to talk about the old relationship”. Listen to your ex and stop bringing up the old relationship, for now.

The further into the past the old relationship fades, the easier it is for you to start over.

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