Comment on My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want To Break-Up? by Yangki Akiteng, Love Doctor.
“Everyone loves being in the company of someone who does not reject or resist them.”
How so true!!! The exception to the rule are people who feel alive when they are struggling, in perpetual anxiety, suffering and in pain — i.e. trying to make someone love them.
Other than that, it’s human nature to want people who want us. Problem is, many of us say we want to be in a relationship with someone but at the same time keep telling the person they are not this or that, or that because they are this and not the other, they are making us unhappy. What we don’t realize is that, what we’re actually saying is “I don’t accept you”. And we wonder why the other person wants out (a.k.a. “I don’t know if I want a relationship right now”).
I really hope the two of you can work things out, eventually.
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I am humbled by your kind words, and happy to have been of some help in your healing and growth.
Whether it is worth putting in more effort or not is a decision only you can make. I don’t think it’s a good idea to outsource to me or anyone a decision that is about your heart and/or life because the only person who’ll have to live with the decision is YOU.
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I like your question, but it does not fit under this article. I have responded to it as a separate post. You can find the answer here.
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I hope you understand that all I can do is give advice. I can’t stop you from doing ‘no contact”… I do not have the desire to even try.
As we Africans say: Wear your rags to your funeral. Who am I to stop you.
I just hope for your sake, she is “waiting” for you to contact her. Some exes are not that “patient”.
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“I ignore her… makes me feel wanted and valued” is not just about control, it’s worse. It’s manipulation.
Hurting someone else so as to feel wanted and valued is a sign of low self-esteem, emotional dysfunction and/or immaturity.
One day she’s going to catch up on it… and you’ll be here looking for advice on “how to get back my ex”…
I think you’ll find my article helpful (if you are willing to be helped): Is Playing Mind Games Normal In Relationships?