Comment on My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want To Break-Up? by Yangki Akiteng, Love Doctor.
“Everyone loves being in the company of someone who does not reject or resist them.”
How so true!!! The exception to the rule are people who feel alive when they are struggling, in perpetual anxiety, suffering and in pain — i.e. trying to make someone love them.
Other than that, it’s human nature to want people who want us. Problem is, many of us say we want to be in a relationship with someone but at the same time keep telling the person they are not this or that, or that because they are this and not the other, they are making us unhappy. What we don’t realize is that, what we’re actually saying is “I don’t accept you”. And we wonder why the other person wants out (a.k.a. “I don’t know if I want a relationship right now”).
I really hope the two of you can work things out, eventually.
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All that is addressed in the book… which you just started reading… 😉