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Comment on My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want To Break-Up? by Yangki Akiteng, Love Doctor.

“Everyone loves being in the company of someone who does not reject or resist them.”

How so true!!! The exception to the rule are people who feel alive when they are struggling, in perpetual anxiety, suffering and in pain — i.e. trying to make someone love them.

Other than that, it’s human nature to want people who want us. Problem is, many of us say we want to be in a relationship with someone but at the same time keep telling the person they are not this or that, or that because they are this and not the other, they are making us unhappy. What we don’t realize is that, what we’re actually saying is “I don’t accept you”. And we wonder why the other person wants out (a.k.a. “I don’t know if I want a relationship right now”).

I really hope the two of you can work things out, eventually.

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Can An Emotionally Aloof Person Change?
Most of the time, it’s something you learn early in life. Cold and self centered kind of becomes your “default” traits. Some people continue it into adulthood because it’s either the only way they know how to or there is some sort of “reward” for them being cold and self centered (why would they want to change?).

Since it’s something that was learned – whatever can be learned can be unlearned. The only exception – at least from what I read – is if something happened to your brain to cause you not to be able to have/experience certain feelings the way the rest of us do, then you need more than just “unlearning” the behaviour. Other than that, if you really want to change, you CAN CHANGE!


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Thank you for giving us a peak into your heart and soul… simply beautiful.

You are an inspiration!


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Thank you for your very kind words, Melissa.

I was hoping (more like anxious) that I would be able to pass on the “sasa” (expectant waiting) concept without losing the reader. Your comment tells me I somehow did what I set out to accomplish.

There is only so much you can put into a relationship before you start getting diminished returns on your investments. Hopefully your ‘new” relationship with your ex or with someone new will be more balanced.


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This could be because you still want her as your girlfriend and not as a friend. Until you reach that point where you “let go” hoping there will be a relationship of more than friends, it’ll be hard to get to being friends. Best advice is 1) be honest with your ex, friendship may be possible in the future, but right now you just can’t do it and 2) don’t try too hard to be her friend. Friendships are best when they just happen naturally.


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First of all, very few exes end a relationship saying: ‘I am breaking up with you but I am sure I will change my mind and want you back’. Very few.

Over 90% honestly believe that it is over and thy are not changing their minds. Most change their minds because the dynamic changed and they can see the relationship can be better.

What I am saying is, as long as the lines of communication are still open, there is always a possibility he’ll change his mind. It is who you become (new you) and what you do to make the relationship FEEL and BE new and better that makes all the difference.


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