Does Sex With Your Ex Hurt Your Chances?

sex-with-your-ex-a-mistakeAdmit it, sex with one’s ex can be tempting whether you are male or female.  The idea that your ex still finds you sexually irresistible is flattering to say the least.  If you had a great sex life, the temptation is even greater.

But why do many of us really do it?

According to a recent study that appeared in the Daily Mail, 43 percent of women admit to regularly sleeping with an ex while searching for someone new. The common reasons for having sex with one’s were listed as:

1. “Missed physical intimacy.”

2. “Wanted to re-start the relationship.”

3. “Things went too far after too much to drink.”

5. “Bumped into each other on a night out and ‘it seemed like a good idea.”

As with all matters relating to sex between two consenting adults, my personal opinion is that, it’s not so much about sex but one’s intentions and expectations for having sex in the first place that makes having sex with one’s ex a walk down memory lane or a big mistake.

Ignoring the reasons that the relationship ended, and thinking that sex will make it all okay again, is setting oneself up for more disappointment and more heartache.

My advice to my clients and also in my eBook is, keep the two separate.

If you are so tempted to walk down memory lane, make sure that it’s just about sex– for good ol’ time’s sake! No strings or expectations attached. Sex alone will not necessarily get you back together. Sex alone will not fix the relationship. In many instances it may actually create another hurdle to overcome in the process of trying to get back your ex.

Keeping the two separate — not everybody is emotionally and sexually mature enough to compartmentalize in a healthy way — allows you to pursue the emotional aspect of getting your ex back without letting sex interfere. This requires a lot of emotional and sexual maturing on your part, that’s why I can’t emphasize self-inner work enough.

All the programs, tricks, tactics, strategies, contemplation, meditation, reflection etc. in the world mean nothing if YOU have not cleared all the blockages and fears which stop you from experiencing the free flow of pure unadulterated love.

Bottom line, despite all the “negativity” from people who can’t stand their exes for a number of reasons (including bland and boring sex), sex with an ex isn’t automatically a bad thing as long as you are emotionally and sexually mature about it. Men and women who keep things in perspective and understand the risks involved often do not live with regret and guilt when things don’t turn out the way they had hoped or expected.

Those that sleep with their ex thinking that sex will automatically fix everything end up feeling like a used car — and sometimes the sex wasn’t even great!

If you still haven’t accepted the breakup and still pining for what isn’t anymore, it’s probably a good idea to keep your pants on around your ex!

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