All relationships need nurturing in order to thrive. This nurturing extends to your sex life as well. Sadly, for most women (and men) this is the part of the relationship that they are least likely to pay much attention to and one most still feel embarrassed to admit they’re not doing too well in.

A good majority are let down by the all often taunted mantra of “if you have good communication, great sex will happen naturally.” [Makes one wonder what kind of "great sex"  these so-called experts are having themselves!]

Good or great sex is not a bi-product of good communication or even making your body look sexy. Good communication can greatly improve the “quality” of your sex life but alone it does not make sex good or great.

Good or great sex is a product of a conscious and intentional effort to make yourself be desired by your partner and him feel desired by you in a way that awakens both of your primal instincts, generates a constant flow of powerful feelings of attraction, appreciation, respect, trust, affection and love, and builds sexual excitement and passion.

This isn’t some “put on act” to get him in the mood just before sex but rather it’s a non-stop sensuous and sensual ride that begins from the time you wake up in the morning to the time you get into bed at night (everyday).

1. Playful naughty glances

2. A brush against him when you’re passing each other

3. A thigh squeeze in the car

4. Suggestive text messages or phone calls

5. Subtle nobody-is-to-know-from-just looking sexual eye-contact (and between-the-two-of-you-only sexual messages) when you’re in public

6. Little expressions of sexual desire e.g. when he expects a hug give a tickle, when he expects a peck on the cheek give a kiss.

7. A teasing run-of-the-hands down your body e.g when stretching just to remind him of what it feels like to touch you.

8. Provocative swing of the hips when you catch him looking at you walking.

9. “Dirty and sexy” talk when he least expects it (and sex is not involved).

10. Clothes that flatter your body type and accentuate your femininity (something he’s never seen before and doesn’t think is your “type”)

Incorporating as many of these as you can into your day (everyday) sends a message to your man that you are completely comfortable with you (all of you), you want to be desired by the man who matters most to you and you’re not afraid to show him that you desire him. The antipation for fulfillment of both of your desires helps prepare both of your minds and bodies for wild crazy hot sex.

“Yah, yah, yah. Sounds great and all. But we have busy lives… with all the day-to-day responsibilities, where do we get the time?”

Unfortunately, this is very true for most women. If you treat this as one more thing you “have to do” to please a man or have “it’s a man’s job to make me feel like a princess” mentality, you can’t pull it off. Not in a million years!

This requires you first of all to be “okay” with showing that you want to be desired by your man and secondly to be pro-active in letting your sensuousness and sensuality out.

Feeling free to be desired and desirable in away that drives your man wild leaves you feeling appreciated, loved and secure in your relationship. Knowing you have that kind of effect on your man can boost your confidence and make you pro-active and assertive in more areas of your life which in turn makes you even more desirable to your man.

For him, knowing and feeling desired and desirable not only has a profound impact on his testosterone (and libido for that matter); a lot of research has showed that keeping your man “sexually energized” has a real effect on how he performs mental tasks, gives him that extra buzz of energy he needs to perform physical tasks such as mowing the lawn, improves his emotional disposition and makes him more mellow, tender and cooperative.

Be sure to mix it up to keep things new and exciting. Spontaneous horny little quickies here and sex-drenched romantic getaways there; a little coy resistance here and a bold “you-and-me- here-and-NOW” there… make all his wishes come true!

Enjoy your man and be enjoyed by him!

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