Comments on: How Do I Open Communication With My Ex? http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/ Sun, 20 May 2012 16:25:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-963 The Love Doctor Mon, 15 Feb 2010 22:23:18 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-963 Getting your ex back is not impossible. It will be challenging, but if there is still some true love left, it is a good place to begin from. Clcik on this link for <a href="http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=156" rel="nofollow"><strong>10 of the most important steps</strong></a>. Getting your ex back is not impossible. It will be challenging, but if there is still some true love left, it is a good place to begin from.

Clcik on this link for 10 of the most important steps.

]]> By: CorporelEd http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-958 CorporelEd Sun, 14 Feb 2010 08:19:20 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-958 My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about five weeks ago. I want to open up lines of communication and try to get her back. What are the important steps to take to get an ex back? Thanks. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about five weeks ago. I want to open up lines of communication and try to get her back. What are the important steps to take to get an ex back? Thanks.

]]> By: Bev707 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-884 Bev707 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:11:36 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-884 I cannot thank you enough for your help. I called my ex and he answered the very first time. We chatted for 30 minutes and it was quite nice. We’re going out for lunch next weekend. I’m so beside myself with excitement. You truly know what you’re talking about, and actually care with great deal of compassion. PS:I just bought dating your ex ebook and will follow the steps word for word :). Thank you so much! I cannot thank you enough for your help. I called my ex and he answered the very first time. We chatted for 30 minutes and it was quite nice. We’re going out for lunch next weekend. I’m so beside myself with excitement. You truly know what you’re talking about, and actually care with great deal of compassion.

PS:I just bought dating your ex ebook and will follow the steps word for word :) . Thank you so much!

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-873 The Love Doctor Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:39:39 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-873 Good for you... :) I don’t know what you did to hurt her that bad, trying to make her talk won't help things. Send her a reply saying you completely understand. You did hurt her badly and she has every right to feel the way she does. Then tell her you’ll be ready to talk when she’s ready. You’ll probably not get a response back, but that does not matter. The point is to keep the lines of communication open - and you still in the picture. Next you need a plan/strategy on how you’re going to proceed when she contacts you. The risk of things backfiring are higher when you work just on impulse alone. Good for you… :) I don’t know what you did to hurt her that bad, trying to make her talk won’t help things. Send her a reply saying you completely understand. You did hurt her badly and she has every right to feel the way she does. Then tell her you’ll be ready to talk when she’s ready. You’ll probably not get a response back, but that does not matter. The point is to keep the lines of communication open – and you still in the picture. Next you need a plan/strategy on how you’re going to proceed when she contacts you. The risk of things backfiring are higher when you work just on impulse alone.

]]> By: Mansoor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-872 Mansoor Mon, 25 Jan 2010 09:32:38 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-872 I read this post yesterday and contacted my ex. We’ve had no contact since we broke up three weeks ago. She broke up with me. She didn’t want any contact because she believes exes can’t remain friends. For her it’s all or nothing. But I contacted her anyway. It was a simple text with hi, I was wondering how you’re doing. It’s been a while. Two hours later, she texted back saying she was surprised but happy to hear from me. But then said, she didn’t think it was a good idea for us to be in contact just yet. She said she is still thinking about how I hurt her and is not over it yet. I’m actually pleasantly surprised that she texted back. But now what? I read this post yesterday and contacted my ex. We’ve had no contact since we broke up three weeks ago. She broke up with me. She didn’t want any contact because she believes exes can’t remain friends. For her it’s all or nothing. But I contacted her anyway. It was a simple text with hi, I was wondering how you’re doing. It’s been a while. Two hours later, she texted back saying she was surprised but happy to hear from me. But then said, she didn’t think it was a good idea for us to be in contact just yet. She said she is still thinking about how I hurt her and is not over it yet. I’m actually pleasantly surprised that she texted back. But now what?

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-869 The Love Doctor Sat, 23 Jan 2010 23:23:32 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-869 There is only one way to find out. Initiate contact. Email or call him depending on what you’re comfortable doing. Just say you were wondering how he is doing and mention a little bit about positive things happening in your life. Then may be follow it with how when you were doing x or y, something about it reminded you of him. The “reminded me of you” sounds like a perfectly good reason for why you made contact after 4 months. But don’t say anything about missing him or all the “broken heart” sappy stuff. You may be dying to tell him how you still think of him every minute of everyday and remind him of all the great times you had together but you’re not even sure if he wants to hear all that stuff. So keep it to yourself -- for now! Good luck! :) There is only one way to find out. Initiate contact. Email or call him depending on what you’re comfortable doing. Just say you were wondering how he is doing and mention a little bit about positive things happening in your life. Then may be follow it with how when you were doing x or y, something about it reminded you of him. The “reminded me of you” sounds like a perfectly good reason for why you made contact after 4 months. But don’t say anything about missing him or all the “broken heart” sappy stuff. You may be dying to tell him how you still think of him every minute of everyday and remind him of all the great times you had together but you’re not even sure if he wants to hear all that stuff. So keep it to yourself — for now! Good luck! :)

]]> By: Bev707 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-868 Bev707 Sat, 23 Jan 2010 17:42:18 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-868 Thank you for writing this encouraging post. It gives me a glimmer of hope for my situation. I broke up with him 4 months ago for what now seems like a very silly reason. He begged me not to do it but I didn’t listen. But 4 months I’ve thought about him everyday. Everything around me reminds me of the great times we had together. I’ve toyed with the idea of reaching out to him and try to reopen the lines of communication but may be it is potentially over and he has moved on from me. I know from reliable sources that he’s not dating anyone in particular and has mentioned me on several occasions. They’ve also told me he still wears the watch I bought him, which I’m sure reminds him of me. Is 4 months too long to be away/start reopening the lines of communication? Thank you for writing this encouraging post. It gives me a glimmer of hope for my situation. I broke up with him 4 months ago for what now seems like a very silly reason. He begged me not to do it but I didn’t listen. But 4 months I’ve thought about him everyday. Everything around me reminds me of the great times we had together. I’ve toyed with the idea of reaching out to him and try to reopen the lines of communication but may be it is potentially over and he has moved on from me. I know from reliable sources that he’s not dating anyone in particular and has mentioned me on several occasions. They’ve also told me he still wears the watch I bought him, which I’m sure reminds him of me. Is 4 months too long to be away/start reopening the lines of communication?

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-867 The Love Doctor Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:14:23 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-867 I don’t know if she’s testing you. Is she that kind of person? I do however think by not responding to your texts, she is not trying to keep the lines of communication open. My suggestion is send her one more text telling her if she’s serious about wanting to get back together, then she not only make an effort to respond to your texts but initiate contact as well, otherwise you don’t see where this is going. If she steps up, then you know she’s serious. But if she doesn’t, just move on or less you’ll be playing her game for months and still not get back together. I don’t know if she’s testing you. Is she that kind of person? I do however think by not responding to your texts, she is not trying to keep the lines of communication open. My suggestion is send her one more text telling her if she’s serious about wanting to get back together, then she not only make an effort to respond to your texts but initiate contact as well, otherwise you don’t see where this is going. If she steps up, then you know she’s serious. But if she doesn’t, just move on or less you’ll be playing her game for months and still not get back together.

]]> By: DAVES http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/no-contact-since-the-break-up-how-do-i-open-up-the-lines-of-communication/#comment-866 DAVES Sat, 23 Jan 2010 15:18:15 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2832#comment-866 I’m having a hard time understanding the mixed signals I’m getting from my ex. She dumped me and told me not to call her or contact her in any way. After just a week she called me saying she made a mistake and wants me back. We started to text each other regularly and then suddenly no replies from her. She replies once to 3 - 4 texts from me and is always positive and upbeat. I’m not entirely clear about what her intentions are. Is she testing me or is she just keeping the lines of communication open? I’m having a hard time understanding the mixed signals I’m getting from my ex. She dumped me and told me not to call her or contact her in any way. After just a week she called me saying she made a mistake and wants me back. We started to text each other regularly and then suddenly no replies from her. She replies once to 3 – 4 texts from me and is always positive and upbeat. I’m not entirely clear about what her intentions are. Is she testing me or is she just keeping the lines of communication open?

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