When you hit the “no go” zone, sometimes it’s best …

Comment on How To Fight For Your Relationship by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

When you hit the “no go” zone, sometimes it’s best to let to go. Let doesn’t mean give up, it just means stop trying to actively get him back.

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Have you asked him what he means by “be friends”? Does it include “and see what happens?” If it does, don’t get all upset about it. Take it as just “space” and opportunity to show him that things can work again. If not, then you have to decide if you can manage that at the moment.

Don’t force yourself to do more than you can emotionally handle because you’ll end up hurting yourself, AND also losing the relationship.


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It means just that. Things moved too fast, she wasn’t sure if it’s what she wants and pulled back so she can get a better perspective of the relationship. It also means that you still have a chance to prove to her that you’re what/who she’s looking for. How you go about proving to her that you are what/who she’s looking for will determine whether you get back together, become “just friends” or go your separate ways.


How To Fight For Your Relationship
There’s two ways to look at it…

1) If when he was breaking up with you he said he didn’t want any contact at all, then it is possible that he is using no contact to distance from his feelings for you and move on with his life.

2) If he decided to do no contact because you overwhelmed him — pleading, begging, and acting in ways that were not in your best interest, then his decision to use go NC is because he does not want to deal with the drama that follows most break-ups.


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