Some of you will say “Yes. absolutely”. But most of you will probably say, “No! It’ll scare them way.”
There is an open “secret” out there which says if you tell someone how you feel, it’ll drive them away. So everyone is holding their feelings close to the chest, literally. But guess what?
The very people holding tightly on to their feelings are the same people who’re getting rejected and dumped over and over. And the calculating types playing “bargain” with their feelings are the same people who most feel “unloved” by the people they want to love them.
Ever wonder why?
Love — true love, that is — is meant to be given away freely. Unlike many of our material cravings and possessions that reward us by accumulating and hoarding more of it, love is a “poor” man’s luxury. Freely received and freely given. Unfortunately our materialistic conditioned minds don’t seem to get this simple fact. So we’re always trying to get more “love” by trying to accumulate and hoard it, but only end up with nothing.
What can be more beautiful than telling someone you love them? It’s not only a rewarding experience for the receiver, but also for the giver.
So why don’t more people do it?
Everyone is looking after No.1 (Self) these days, and relationships have become about “what can I get for myself?” as opposed to “how can I make someone else feel loved?”
The what’s-in-it-to-for-me thinking makes telling someone how you truly feel very scary. They might not feel the same way and how embarrassing that will be. The ego can’t take that.
And what if he/she doesn’t deserve it? Or you tell someone you love him/her, and you don’t get “I love you, too” back? Don’t you at least deserve something back (for telling them how you feel)?
Fear of getting our ego hurt has supposedly intelligent men act like spoilt children when someone they have a thing for rejects them or acts “not interested”. They get irrational by the second and aggressive/pushy by the minute. Unable to deal with the fact that someone won’t give them what they want, most push to bring the situation they do not like or are uncomfortable with to a faster conclusion.
Their attitude is “It’s going to happen anyway, so I might as well be done with it”. The irony is, sometimes all the other person was hoping for was a little bit more honesty, openness and showing of TRUE feelings, not more dishonesty and coldness.
2. Inner emptiness
Too many “empty” people looking to be filled by someone else’s love. You know what I mean , “You complete me”, “I’m nothing without you” , “You’re the best thing in my life” etc.
Inner emptiness in the realm of love is felt as “neediness.” People without the “needy energy” have a “fullness” about them because they have enough love for themselves and a lot more “overflow” that they are willing and want to share freely with someone else. When someone overflowing with love “loves” another person, that person experiences a feeling of “overflowing” with love and that’s because they are.
Neediness on the other hand is inner emptiness that’s looking for someone else to fill it up. When a needy person tries to “love” or expresses “love”, it feels to the other person like something is being taken away from them instead. And that’s exactly what neediness does. It takes from others to try to fill it’s own inner emptiness.
Naturally and often instinctively, the person being “loved” by a needy person will pull away (or run for dear life). Sometimes they may not even know why, they just know they need to “get away” or be suffocated to death (needy person sucking the love-energy out of them).
The needy person unaware of their vampirish nature thinks the other person pulled away because they “showed” love. When in truth the other person had to leave or be sucked to death trying to fill an emptiness that is un-fill-able by someone else.
Bottom line, if you love someone, let them know. You never know it could be your only chance to tell them how much they mean to you. There’s no point in having all those conversations in your head that you wish you could speak out — but won’t — and then when the person is leaving you, you pour your heart out in a desperate attempt to make them change their mind.
Most people can handle only so much emotion at a time. Overwhelming them with desperate pleas of love, caring, devotion, commitment, happiness, fun etc (promise of better things) will only make someone want to get away as fast as they can, and as far away as possible. Why? Too much needy energy all at once. Scary!
If you love someone tell them they’re loved. It’s one of the best feelings in the world. But as explained above, telling them does not mean that they’ll return your love. Do this for YOU. Do this so your love-energy blocked by dishonesty, pretence and “hoarding” tendecies can flow more freely.
This is the thing about love, the more of it you give away freely, the more you will have– and the more will be returned to you!
Practice. Practice. Practice giving away love — FREELY. And you’ll have more than you can possible hold in your little heart.
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