Do you think she’s a different person from the one …

Comment on How Do I Tell My Ex I Moved On? by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

Do you think she’s a different person from the one who said and did all those things? I’m not talking just different because she has apologized but different in that she’s done some real deep inner work to get to the root of why she reacts that way to feeling rejected. Her telling you she’s been thinking and realizing stuff is NOT enough. Anyone can think and realize what they’ve done, very few actually do something meaningful to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

If you decide to give it another try, don’t rush back in. Chances are if she doesn’t like you “taking your time” and not responding how she wants you to, she’ll blow up again. If that happens, you know, the apologies and all that, were just so that she can get you back.

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3 Reasons Staying Friends With Your Ex Is Good For Getting Back Together
That’s a very legitimate concern that’s handled in Dating Your Ex
1) how not to get locked in the “just friends” zone (page 300 )
2) physical contact when trying to get back together (page 308)


10 Signs Your Ex Does NOT WANT You Back
If this is a one time thing and there are no other problems in the relationship, she’s probably still processing what happened and needs time to resolve it within her mind.

If this has happened before (you texting other women), or if there are other issues in the relationship, she might be rethinking if she really wants you back.

Either way, keep lines of communication open, and see where things go.


Tips On Creating A (Good) Plan For Getting Back Your Ex
You are just ¼ into the book. It’s best to read the whole book first to determine where in the process you are in then make a decision based on how much momentum you have built/progress made. In fact, if you read further, you will get to where I talk about going out on dates.


10 Signs Your Ex Does NOT WANT You Back
You are right that talking about the old relationship may have caused him to pull back. As advised in the book, you can’t completely avoid making mistakes. Almost everyone makes at least one or two. It’s how you course correct that makes the difference.You should be able to get back on track using the advice in the book. It’s not completely lost, yet!


Do Exes Really Ever Come Back?
Thanks, I do the best I can.

Yes, it’s a good idea… 🙂 There is enough momentum to propel you forward. I too believe that you will get back together, it’s only a matter of time (if you don’t screw it up).


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