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Comment on How Do I Tell My Ex I Moved On? by Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng.

It’s just you and a few/many others… (:

When a relationship comes to an end, we each decide individually how we want to respond to the situation. I think it’s a mistake to think someone who decides they want to be friends with an ex is being dishonest because their decision and experience is different from ours.

Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng Also Commented

How Do I Tell My Ex I Moved On?
If the relationship ended with anger and resentment towards each other, there’s not a lot to remain friendly there. Expecting friendship is asking for the impossible. Leave him alone for now, if and when his anger subsides, he may contact you.

Please see my post: Dealing With a resistant and Angry Ex


How Do I Tell My Ex I Moved On?
Reading this brings tears to my eyes…

Friendship with an ex/friendly divorces is a very polarizing subject but I’ll try to write more without attracting too much negative energy to the blog [*fingers crossed!*].


How Do I Tell My Ex I Moved On?
It’s difficult to have a friendship after years of trying to be lovers. In most things in life if we “work hard” we’ll get the results/outcome we expect. Not so always with relationships. This is one main reason why many “hard workers” have difficult/unhealthy/unhappy relationships. Often times the harder you “try” the worse it gets.

Perhaps what you should do is stop “trying” to be friends (the way you were trying to be lovers) and let this settle to what it’s supposed to be. Letting it be (not the same as giving up) may just be what is needed.


Recent Comments by Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng

Why Your Relationship Feels Like Too Much Work
Leave him for good and move on with your life or try to make things work out with him is a decision only you can make. I don’t believe in making decisions for others that they should be making for themselves. As a coach, I can only help you with whatever decision you make or whatever side you’re already leaning towards. Making decisions for you isn’t empowering you to OWN your life — and relationship (be responsible!).


At What Point Do You Stop Trying To Get Back An Ex?
If it makes you feel good to have “closure” contact him and tell him you’ll not be bothering him again. But that’s all what contacting him will do, give you “closure” (hopefully!).

Waiting for him to contact you is unrealistic. They say the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour… he didn’t contact you for 2 months and when you contacted him he didn’t seem interested and hasn’t responded to any of your 3 contacts, what makes you think he’ll contact you?

My suggestion is that you let this go… meaning you stop actively trying to get him back and focus your attention elsewhere. You can try again later if you are still up to it, but for now more contact is useless.


Should I Wait For Him to Contact Me?
It might explain why some women seem to all be sharing or recycling the same men.


Should I Wait For Him to Contact Me?
There’s that school of thought and I respect your position. However, I’m not saying women HAVE to approach men. Some women like you obviously have a problem with it, and that OK.

I think that if a woman wants to take the initiative and own the power to choose who she dates instead of complaining about men not approaching her, or about meeting only losers (who approach her), why try to take that from her with statements like “unless she’s desperate?”

We all should do what we have to do and let others do what they want to do. Makes life easier for everybody… (:


So Why Is My Ex Texting Me Now?
My advice… Grow up and stop playing mind games.

Engaging and pulling away — as in no contact then contact, then pulling away, then contact, then not returning calls etc — is destructive for any relationship.

One of you has to step up and be the adult, if not, it’s going to be like this until the feeling of love and liking is completely gone — for good!


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