Question: Yangki, just so you know. I don’t want to go no contact. I don’t want her to think I don’t care or moved on. I’m only doing it because I have no other choice. I love my ex very much and want her back in my life but she doesn’t want me. In the beginning I bombarded her with so many texts, emails and phone calls. Then I stopped. I told her I would not bother her again. She said she still loves me but does not like it when I act needy and not give her space to think about what she wants. One of the reasons she broke it off is because she felt that I was controlling and got upset when I didn’t get my way. I just don’t have a choice but to not contact her and show her I have changed.
Yangki’s Answer: When someone says you are controlling, cutting off all contact is not the solution. The last thing you want to do is confirm to her just how controlling you really are by cutting off all contact because you did not get your way.
What I am saying is that you do have a choice, and it’s a very simple one. Don’t send too many texts.
Remember she said “give her space to think”; she didn’t say not to contact her or for you to disappear from her life. There’s a difference.
“Give her space to think” is finding a balance where you are in contact but she still gets space to think. This will show her that you are not upset because you didn’t get your way, and you can act civil, loving and caring even when you are not in control of the situation. She needs to see this new and better side of you to “think” favourably of you, and getting back together.
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