Some of you who read my article: How A Short Below-Average Looking 40 yo. Man Fails To Attract Beautiful Women wrote to me complaining that the article didn’t go far enough on how to artfully mix being sexual, natural and playful in away that amplifies sexual chemistry and creates sexual attraction. I heard you and will attempt to go further in this post.
I’m not a “TV watcher” and Criminal Minds is probably the only show I watch faithfully. One of the many reasons I watch the show is the vibe between Derek Morgan (Shemar Moore) and Penelope Garcia (Kirsten Vangsness). Over the years, I’ve found that “special something” between those two to be a great reference for explaining playful banter between a man and woman and the use of sexual innuendo in a way that creates a connection that goes deeper than “I’m horny, give me some.”
Without further ado, I’ll delve right into the middle of the dirty and sexy pot of playful banter and sexual innuendo.
[Answering his cellphone]
Derek: Yeah, Morgan.
Garcia: Isn’t this spooky?
Derek: Isn’t what spooky?
Garcia: That right now you were thinking about me, and out of the blue your phone rings? And it’s me. Huh? How’s that for a spiritual connection?
Derek: Umm… Do I know you?
Garcia: Why do you hurt me?
[Morgan laughs] [Morgan has just telephoned Garcia from Houston, Texas] Garcia: Are you lonely in the Lone Star State? And are you wearing chaps?
Derek: [laughing] Only in your dreams, Garcia.
Garcia: [laughing] Oh, not necessarily. I have Photoshop.
Derek: Hey baby girl. We need to talk.
Garcia: PG or NC17?
Derek: You’re on speaker phone.
Garcia: I charge extra for groups. [Morgan and Garcia are speaking to each other on the telephone] Derek: Garcia, baby girl, please tell me something I want to hear.
Garcia: You are a statuesque god of sculpted chocolate thunder.
Derek: How about something I don’t already know?
Garcia: …I have a sweet tooth. [Morgan and Garcia are speaking to each other on the telephone] Derek: Yeah, talk to me baby girl.
Garcia: I’m not interrupting boy time a Crazy Horse 2 am I?
Derek: You know that’s not my thing. I’m more for in room entertainment.
Garcia: Well, I can’t help you there. But I do give good phone. [Morgan is Driving the Ambulance with the Bomb Away from the Hospital].
Morgan: Yeah baby?
Garcia: You sound stressed.
Morgan: Do I?… There’s something I really want you to know, Garcia.
Garcia: Save it, just get out!
Morgan: No, no, no, I’m not quite there yet…
Morgan: Just listen to me…
Garcia: Morgan, please…
Morgan: You know what you are, Garcia?
Garcia: (bomb in ambulance explodes) Morgan! (pause) Derek?
Morgan: Garcia? I’ll tell you what you are to me. You’re my God-given solace. Woman you promise me one thing – whatever happens, don’t you ever stop talking to me.
Garcia: I can’t right now ’cause I’m mad at you.
Morgan: I’m not going anywhere.
Morgan: No, that couch right there is going to be my best friend until we catch this guy.
Garcia: Fine, just as long as you’re not trying to take advantage of me or anything.
Morgan: Hey, Silly Girl.
Morgan: I love you, you know that, right?
Garcia: I love you, too.
Garcia: Je suis toujours ici pour toi, mon cher.
Morgan: Drives me crazy when you talk that “voulez coucher” stuff to me. [teasing] Stop it.
Morgan and Garcia dynamic sharply contrasts with something relatively one-dimensional (show-off) like the Pick-Up Artist’s Seduction Game or Nice Guy’s sappy (tediously boring) monologues.
What stands out in this dynamic?
1. Confidence, confidence and some more… Sexual confidence feeds on sexual confidence. The more sexually confident you are with the opposite sex, the more sexually confident they feel around you.
2. Subtlety. It’s truly a case of less is more. No need to name sexual organs or go explicitly sexual. Cross over to the sleazy and creepy and you ruin the dynamic.
3. Reciprocity. It’s give as good as you get all the way. The quick and sharp openness, intrinsic playfulness and mutual respect and enjoyment creates some real moments for both people involved.
4. Generousity of spirit. Both people are just being generally charming, with no specific goal to accomplish (i.e. sex, hmmm?).
Now go out there and make someone’s dreams come true!
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