I have no clue. The “no-contact experts” will probably give …

Comment on Absence Does Not Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder by Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng.

I have no clue. The “no-contact experts” will probably give you a better answer.

My guess would be to give him more time. For how long? Again, I have no clue. May be next time you break-up with someone…don’t do no contact. They’re not going to be sitting around “waiting” for you to contact them after you are done with no contact.

Personally, if someone treated me like I am easily disposable…. I don’t want them back in my life.

Love Doctor, Yangki Akiteng Also Commented

Absence Does Not Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder
Spend a little more time on the site. There is a lot of advice on how to approach getting back someone who says one thing and does another. Read the comments as well, I have responded to many questions with a similar situation as yours.


Absence Does Not Make Your Ex’s Heart Grow Fonder
Yes, if they just disappear with no explanation or break up with you via text. They’re showing you they have no respect for you/you have no value to them.

No, if they tell you why they are breaking up with you. You may not like that they ended the relationship or think their reason is valid… but it’s their reason. You can’t force anyone to be in a relationship.

Emotionally mature/competent people when faced with a break-up RESPOND in ways that get them what they want, not REACT to not getting what they want.

That said, if you no longer want anything to do with your ex because of a toxic dynamic, then cutting them off makes sense.

Bottom line: Break-ups happen, it’s how you respond/react to the break-up that makes the difference.

Africans have a saying: Do not burn a bridge if there’s even a very slight chance you might want to walk back that route.


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I am humbled… 🙂

Yes, it takes as long as it takes…

The “emotionalizing” is that ‘spilled milk’ thing I talk about in the book. The good thing is that you are focused on forward movement and not just ‘waiting it out” like many people do. You don’t grow sitting put.


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Most of the time, it’s something you learn early in life. Cold and self centered kind of becomes your “default” traits. Some people continue it into adulthood because it’s either the only way they know how to or there is some sort of “reward” for them being cold and self centered (why would they want to change?).

Since it’s something that was learned – whatever can be learned can be unlearned. The only exception – at least from what I read – is if something happened to your brain to cause you not to be able to have/experience certain feelings the way the rest of us do, then you need more than just “unlearning” the behaviour. Other than that, if you really want to change, you CAN CHANGE!


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Thank you for giving us a peak into your heart and soul… simply beautiful.

You are an inspiration!


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Congratulations, May!… 🙂

You will be just fine… I know it. All the very best.


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Thank you for your very kind words, Melissa.

I was hoping (more like anxious) that I would be able to pass on the “sasa” (expectant waiting) concept without losing the reader. Your comment tells me I somehow did what I set out to accomplish.

There is only so much you can put into a relationship before you start getting diminished returns on your investments. Hopefully your ‘new” relationship with your ex or with someone new will be more balanced.


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