Thursday July 31st 2014

‘Toxic Relationships’ Archives

Toxic Niceness — Are You Are Being Played?

Toxic Niceness — Are You Are Being Played?

Have you had someone say very nice things about you and instead of it making you feel "good', you feel really uncomfortable and even feel like throwing up? There's a name for it. Toxic nicenesss. It starts with a flattering compliment, usually telling you what a great individual you are, how different you are from anyone else and how much [...]

Talking to Your Ex: About The Break-Up (Pt. 1)

Talking to Your Ex: About The Break-Up (Pt. 1)

In my article: No.1 Reason You're Not Making Progress With Your Ex, I talked about how trying to explain yourself or reason with your ex instead of addressing/talking to his/her underlying emotions stalls any progress towards reconciliation, and hurts the chances of you getting your ex back. The No.2 main reason why things don't seem to be [...]

Have You Dumped This Guy? [Me Too!]

Have You Dumped This Guy? [Me Too!]

He opened the door to a sparsely furnished one bedroom apartment. It was clean, tidy and smelt good, but it was obvious -- this was a guy of very modest means. I was raised dirt poor and material things have never been an issue with me (owning two pairs of shoes, and eating three meals a day is "living rich" as far as I am concerned), but I was [...]

Communicating With Your Ex Post Break-Up – Pt 1

Communicating With Your Ex Post Break-Up – Pt 1

"Communication problems" seems to be the catch-all phrase for every relationship problem, and is often sighted as the main cause of the collapse of many relationships. I'm the first to admit that we relationship counselors, therapists and coaches are partly responsible for this. Many of us become "experts" with no or very little training in [...]

Why Love Always, Always Comes Back

Why Love Always, Always Comes Back

A client who had played mind games with her boyfriend was talking about how much she regrets what she had done and how she wishes she could take it back when out of no where she asked me "Do you believe in karma?" I didn't know exactly where she was going with the question, so I said, "Explain karma?" She said "Karma... like in if you do [...]

Why You Still Can’t Get Over Your Ex – Pt. 1

Why You Still Can’t Get Over Your Ex – Pt. 1

Does contact with an ex you still have feelings for prevent you from moving on? Most people will say, YES! Being too close or spending time with an ex prevents you from moving on. The best thing to do if you want to move on is completely disconnect yourself from your ex and have nothing to do with him/her. But as many of you have found [...]

15 Self-Help Practices That’ll Get Back Your Ex – Pt. 1

15 Self-Help Practices That’ll Get Back Your Ex – Pt. 1

Brains left a comment on my post: How To Stop Over Analyzing Your Relationship... "I tend to over analyze things but that is because I want to understand it and be able to come up with a sensible solution. I don't see anything wrong with that". I responded with: "You don't see anything wrong because there is nothing wrong if your analysis [...]

Why You Should Forgive Already

Why You Should Forgive Already

Forgiveness has been on my mind lately. No, I am not hurting. And I have forgiven all I need to forgive, and hopefully have been forgiven for all the wrongs I've done to others. Hearing about and seeing so many relationships destroyed by emotional hurt and so many good and loving people kept apart by the struggle to forgive the other, may be the [...]

What Your Ex Was Too Afraid To Tell You

What Your Ex Was Too Afraid To Tell You

Ever had someone break-up with you, and although they said it was "the reason" for the break-up, somewhere deep inside you knew there was more to it? Well, I've been in this field long enough (probably too long) and I've heard it all. It's not always what they tell you it is... but you probably already knew that, didn't you? Let's tell it [...]

Why Do Men Emotionally Pull Away?

Why Do Men Emotionally Pull Away?

Question: Yangki, my situation is similar to Jillian's. My ex also initiates contact but avoids emotionally difficult conversations. It hurts that he shuts me out of his life. He was never one for emotional conversations. Whenever I tried to talk to him about things that were important to me, he’d say he is going through a lot at work and [...]

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