‘Playing Hard To Get’ Archives
Is He Shy Or Just Likes Me As A Friend To Hang Out With?
Question: I loved your article, The Best Men Are Often Too Shy To Chase Women - They Need A Little Help From You. It’s the best I’ve read on shy men. I met a guy I’m very attracted to; 38, divorced with no kids. I’m 40 divorced with one son. He and my brother-in- law co-own an investment firm. One day my brother-in-law jokingly suggested [...]
Acting Aloof and Distant To Make Someone Love You And Want You More
Question: I’ve been involved with a guy for a year and a few months. He’s very physically attractive, charming, witty and shares my interests and values. He's also one of the few people not afraid to point out my mistakes, which I really do value. But the relationship has its problems. I don’t want to call it toxic but there is definitely [...]
Love Mistake No 2. You Acted Out Of Fear And Will Probably Do It Again
If you always find yourself making Love Mistake No 1, chances are you’re also making Love Mistake No 2. That is, you act out of FEAR - and are controlled by fear - instead of acting out of love and have love direct all your words, actions and behaviours. What’s the difference? The difference is like night and day. Most people don’t [...]
Is There Someone Else in His Life Or Am I Jumping to Wrong Conclusions?
Question: I started seeing this guy a month ago. He says he is falling for me and I really like him. We email back and forth and talk everyday. But this is where it gets tricky. He only calls me during the day at work when I’m busy and only have a few minutes to talk. I’ve told him to call me at home in the evenings or nights, he says he’ll [...]
She Wants The Chase What Can I Do To Make Her Feel Like She’s Chasing Me?
Question: I've been going out with this woman for 3 months now. She told me she wants what she can't have and that she loves to chase. She asked me to make her chase me more. I find this quite hard to do seeing that I already have her and she knows in the end she will still have me. I hope that makes sense. What can I do to make her feel like [...]
The “Rules” and Playing Dating Mind Games
You’ve heard them; don’t approach him first, don’t flirt, don’t look friendly, don’t pick up the phone when he calls, wait four days before you call him back, never ever accept spontaneous invitations, act like you’re not interested, don’t show him you like him, don’t let him hold your hand until on the third date, don’t [...]
How Do I Stop Acting Needy and Pushing Too Hard?
Question: I'm currently in a long distance relationship. We live in different countries. We met on a dating site and kept in contact via email, text and phone for 4 months. We met in person for the first time last month and it was instant fireworks. Since meeting in person, our relationship has changed a lot; some of it is for the better but most [...]
How To Get Closer To Someone You Love
“My problem is that I love him too much!” “What do you mean?” "He’s taking my love for granted because I’m always there. May be I should play hard to get”. This mindset is based on the notion that if two people love each other, they should want to spend every breathing moment with each other. If one person does not desire [...]
Is Your Aloof Type Demeanor Preventing Your From Experiencing The Intimacy You Desire?
Question: I am the aloof type through and through. I know this about myself, but then I don’t see it as some sort of game. I truly just enjoy my ‘me’ time and have become quite a bit more introverted as I’ve aged. Some people cannot handle that and attempt to cling or get jealous of such things as my wanting to stay in and read a [...]
How Can I Hold On To Him – I Don’t Want To Lose This Wonderful Man Too
Question: Thank you for everything you're doing. This is by far the best advice site and blog on authentic relationships. My story in brief is that for 3 years I have been hiding my true feelings, lying about who I’m with and where I’ve been and generally playing mind games with this one man whom I love very much. I just don’t know how [...]
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