‘Healthy Attachment’ Archives
How Do You Start A NEW Relationship With Your Ex?
Question: Yangki, I really want to buy your eBook because I love your articles and your approach to love and relationships. Can you clarify what you mean by "starting the relationship with your ex all over". My ex and I were together for 4 years. We've broken up several times but always found ourselves back with the other. I have no doubt she [...]
Why Is Your Ex Acting So Mean And Cruel?
Some break-ups are amicable and others are so nass-teey. Some people stay friends after a breakup, and others want to forget they ever knew each other's name. Then there are exes that say you are going to remain friends, but then they start acting really cold and mean? S/he sees you and quickly walks away or ignores you altogether, or s/he [...]
Can An Emotionally Unavailable and Cold Person Change?
Question: May be you can help me. My boyfriend complains that I am emotionally detached and wall him off at times and not let him in. He says that when we’re in public I come across as very unfriendly and unapproachable. I’ve been told by other people that I'm cold and aloof and not caring enough. Obviously there must be some truth [...]
When Does a Friend Become a Romantic Interest?
Question: I recently met a guy on an online dating site. We chatted for three weeks and in all that time not once did I feel that butterflies in the stomach feeling. When he told me he was going to call me, two days before we spoke for the first time, I forgot about it until the phone rang. He said he was nervous but I was as calm as can be. When [...]
Should A Woman Make The First Move?
Question: Is it okay for a woman to make the first move? What's the best time frame between contacts? How do I change things from me calling him to him calling me? The Love Doctor's Answer: In my opinion, it is okay for a woman to make the first move. Just as women don't like being the sole initiator, men really don’t like it either. And many [...]
Using “No Contact” To Emotionally Break Your Ex
Anna Wrote: I am a little confused about one part in your article. In one of the paragraphs you say that people who use 'no contact' are not using it because they love you... Yet in the same paragraph you also say that these people are not out to hurt the person they love, which implies that this would be done to a person they love... So then, if [...]
How To Get Your Ex To Start Initiating Contact
After receiving many comments and email questions asking if "limited contact" is the same as "pressure-free contact" (which I advocate in my eBook Dating Your Ex), I thought it best to write a brief post to explain the difference. First of all the two are not the same. 1. Quantity vs. Quality Limited Contact (LC) is about quantity. [...]
Letting Go So You Can Hold On To Your Relationship
Let go to hold on?! What the... I know... reads like an oxymoron. But this is probably the only thing that'll save your struggling relationship, so please read on... A bird flies and rests on the shoulder of a girl playing in a field. It sings a lovely song. The girl likes the song very much and decides she wants to keep the bird for [...]
When Love It Is Too Good To Be True
I was first introduced to Second Life by a man who wanted help getting his ex wife back. He told me from the moment they met they both instantly knew they were meant to be together. A week after they met, he proposed and she said yes. Although it was a private wedding, it was the wedding of their dreams. Wedding night sex, the morning [...]
How You Can Tell You Are About To Break-Up
Researchers in a study that used a technique often used to assess racism and bias, other feelings people have trouble admitting to themselves say that you can tell if a romantic relationship is going to fall apart how people automatically respond to words referring to their partner to words with pleasant or unpleasant meanings. The 222 [...]
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