Tuesday September 23rd 2014

‘Healthy Attachment’ Archives

When Does a Friend Become a Romantic Interest?

When Does a Friend Become a Romantic Interest?

Question: I recently met a guy on an online dating site. We chatted for three weeks and in all that time not once did I feel that butterflies in the stomach feeling. When he told me he was going to call me, two days before we spoke for the first time, I forgot about it until the phone rang. He said he was nervous but I was as calm as can be. When [...]

‘I Love You’ May Not Always Mean ‘I, Love You’

‘I Love You’ May Not Always Mean ‘I, Love You’

Just mere semantics, right? Not so fast. According to relational communication expert Sean Horan, an assistant professor at DePaul University in the College of Communication, affectionate behaviour is not all that it seems. "Gestures such as hand holding, kissing and cuddling could be indicators that your partner is mad at you," explained [...]

Help! My Ex Is Afraid Of Getting Close To Anyone

Help! My Ex Is Afraid Of Getting Close To Anyone

Question: Yangki, my ex is emotionally damaged and afraid to get close to anyone. She had a rough childhood with an alcoholic mother and father who wasn't around. When she started pushing me away, she said she was scared I'd leave her. I told her I love her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. But then I found out she was seeing [...]

What Does She Mean By She Wants Me To Lead?

What Does She Mean By She Wants Me To Lead?

Question: My girlfriend of 2 years told me that she loves me but does not want a relationship with me because to her I don't fit the bill for what she wants in a guy. She says I’m intelligent, hard working, funny, have a kind, romantic and very loving and she loves all that about me but says I’m just not strong enough for her. She says she can [...]

How To Get Closer To Someone You Love

How To Get Closer To Someone You Love

“My problem is that I love him too much!” “What do you mean?” "He’s taking my love for granted because I’m always there. May be I should play hard to get”. This mindset is based on the notion that if two people love each other, they should want to spend every breathing moment with each other. If one person does not desire [...]

Do Guys Lose Interest If You Reveal Too Much?

Do Guys Lose Interest If You Reveal Too Much?

Question: I read your blog: The "Rules" and Playing Dating Mind Games. While I agree with some things you say, I do not think that women should be open and forthcoming in the first few dates. I’ve been out on great first few dates with a number of great guys but nothing that lasted for more than 3- 4 dates. The last guy I went out with was [...]

The Secret Reason Your Ex Is Mean To You

The Secret Reason Your Ex Is Mean To You

Some break-ups are amicable and others are so nass-teey. Some people stay friends after a breakup, and others want to forget they ever knew each other's name. Then there are exes that say you are going to remain friends, but then they start acting really cold and mean? S/he sees you and quickly walks away or ignores you altogether, or s/he [...]

I’m Losing My Boyfriend – What Should I Do? Pt. 2

I’m Losing My Boyfriend – What Should I Do? Pt. 2

Continues from Pt 1 When we’re threatened with the possibility of losing someone we love, we often don't see the things in front of us including how our own words and actions may be more self-destructing than helpful. This is especially true when you feel like what you worked hard to build (and keep) is slipping through your fingers and [...]

4 Myths About How To Make Your Ex Miss You

4 Myths About How To Make Your Ex Miss You

Comment: Yangki, I think that No Contact works if you wait long enough for both you and your ex to remember the good times at the beginning of your relationship, more easily than you remember the bad times at the end. Like John, I acted very needy and desperate at the end and she threatened to report me to the authorities if I didn't stop [...]

She Never Does Anything For Me Even When I Ask

She Never Does Anything For Me Even When I Ask

Question: Yangki, I’ve read your articles and absolutely love everything you have to say about love. I’m trying to be a more loving person in my romantic relationship and in life in general but it’s a real struggle. I used to be hard on myself because I didn’t love me but with a lot of work, I love myself more. I also try to be more loving [...]

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