‘Emotional Connection’ Archives
Why Do Women Want A Man Who Plays Hard To Get?
Question: Women complain that men do not contact them after a date and play hard to get. But when they find a guy who shows them his true feelings and does not play hard to get they complain that he is too nice because he does not play hard to get. Most women I've dated start playing hard to get which is frustrating to guys like me not [...]
Behind Your Partner Or Ex’s Words: What They Definitely Don’t Want You To Know
One of the things I do and - I’ve long discovered - frustrates some of my clients is my insistence on “What exactly did he/she say, when, why and how did he/she say it?” Most respond with “I can’t remember the exact words… but I think he/she meant…” Some other responses include “Is it really that important?” or “It’s [...]
Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.1
I talk to so many men and women, and receive tons of emails from people saying, I am NOT this or I’m NOT that and that’s why I have this or that dating or relationship problem. If I may be honest here, I’d rather receive these types of emails any day anytime, than those that blame someone else or something else for everything else. [...]
Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.2
In Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt 1 , I explained why it’s important to know and love yourself first before the man or woman you love can love or want you. It’s one thing to love yourself and know that you are lovable and love worthy and it’s another to be able to express that “best in you” in ways that make [...]
Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.3
In part 2 of Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You, I briefly touched on why it’s important to learn to be excited about what IS. This is not easy when you have expectations of others and are always worrying and overanalyzing their every word and action. Just think about it. Every time you’ve felt rejected and unwanted by someone [...]
Can An Emotionally Unavailable and Cold Person Change?
Question: May be you can help me. My boyfriend complains that I am emotionally detached and wall him off at times and not let him in. He says that when we’re in public I come across as very unfriendly and unapproachable. I’ve been told by other people that I'm cold and aloof and not caring enough. Obviously there must be some truth [...]
Emotional Maturity – Could It Be The Attractive Quality Missing In You?
Emotional maturity is not something most of us consciously look for in a partner. For many of us it’s not even a priority in the qualities we look for. We kind of take it for granted that if you’re attracted to someone then everything will fall into place. If the relationship is casual and not expected to grow into something long term then [...]
Is Your Aloof Type Demeanor Preventing Your From Experiencing The Intimacy You Desire?
Question: I am the aloof type through and through. I know this about myself, but then I don’t see it as some sort of game. I truly just enjoy my ‘me’ time and have become quite a bit more introverted as I’ve aged. Some people cannot handle that and attempt to cling or get jealous of such things as my wanting to stay in and read a [...]
How Can I Hold On To Him – I Don’t Want To Lose This Wonderful Man Too
Question: Thank you for everything you're doing. This is by far the best advice site and blog on authentic relationships. My story in brief is that for 3 years I have been hiding my true feelings, lying about who I’m with and where I’ve been and generally playing mind games with this one man whom I love very much. I just don’t know how [...]
Is She Or He Lying To You: How Good Are You At Distinguishing A Lie From The Truth?
Trusting others may not make you necessarily a fool, instead it can be a sign that you're smart says a study in the current Social Psychological and Personality Science (published by SAGE).. Several days before 2nd year MBA students watched the tapes of interviewees they believed were telling the truth, they filled out a questionnaire that [...]
