‘Clinging & Acting Needy’ Archives
What “I’m Committed To This Relationship” Means
"When people say, 'I'm committed to my relationship,' they can mean two things," said study co-author Benjamin Karney, a professor of psychology and co-director of the Relationship Institute at UCLA. "One thing they can mean is, 'I really like this relationship and want it to continue.' However, commitment is more than just that." A deeper [...]
How Can I Make Her Feel Like She’s Chasing Me?
Question: I've been going out with this woman for 3 months now. She told me she wants what she can't have and that she loves to chase. She asked me to make her chase me more. I find this quite hard to do seeing that I already have her and she knows in the end she will still have me. I hope that makes sense. What can I do to make her feel like [...]
When Is It Time To Give Up On An Ex?
Anyone who has tried to get an ex back knows too well that this is not something you can achieve with a single action or random number of actions. It takes time, and sometimes it’s one step forward and two backwards. And other times you feel like you’re getting mixed signals. Many tend to give up after just one or two attempts and others [...]
Are You Making This “Get Back My Ex” Mistake?
I’ve said this in my many of my articles and write quite a bit about in my eBook: what you talk about with your ex is so much more important than how many times you contact your ex. The number of contacts especially in the beginning means nothing if the “content” of your exchanges do not and cannot validate shared positive memories. The [...]
Help! Jealousy Is Ruining My Relationship
Question: Our relationship started on a strong friendship foundation. There was a real connection. But now we're fighting all the time. I have worked with many therapists to try to control my jealousy but it only gets better for a while then it’s a problem again. Now he does not want to be sexually intimate with me. He says that because of [...]
10 Signs Of A Loser Mentality [Relationship Killers]
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I happen to believe that we all are "enough" just the way we are. Sure, we all have room to improve and be better human beings, partners, lovers, etc. but deep life changing transformation begins with recognizing that we were never meant to be perfect. However, "loser" does describe a certain mentality that men and women bring to a date, [...]
Does Acting Aloof Make You More Attractive?
Question: I’ve been involved with a guy for a year and a few months. He’s very physically attractive, charming, witty and shares my interests and values. He's also one of the few people not afraid to point out my mistakes, which I really do value. But the relationship has its problems. I don’t want to call it toxic but there is definitely [...]
What’s The Best Way To Get My Ex To Talk To Me?
Question: I am finding myself in a situation where my ex flies into a range every time I ask her why we broke up. She just came out from the blue one evening after we returned from a friend's house and said, " I can't do this anymore. This relationship is sucking the life out of me."We had not had a fight or argument that day or even days before [...]
Why Someone You Love Doesn’t Want You: Pt.3
In part 2 of Why The Man or Woman You Love Doesn’t Want You, I briefly touched on why it’s important to learn to be excited about what IS. This is not easy when you have expectations of others and are always worrying and overanalyzing their every word and action. Just think about it. Every time you’ve felt rejected and unwanted by someone [...]
Will My Ex’s Feelings For Me Ever Be Strong Again?
Question:My ex says his feelings for me are not as strong as before and that he's sorry but he can't pretend anymore. He says some days he thinks he wants me back and other days he just wants to move on because he doesn’t know if he’ll ever feel strongly for me again. He told me not to wait for him or put my life on hold. I told him we can [...]
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