Most forums about break-ups and/or getting back your ex are more like “Social Clubs”. Here, we’re all about giving you the guidance, advice and support you need to get back your ex… A.S.A.P.

You actually get answers and advice instead of reading other people’s stories asking for advice (from ANY-ONE), and most of the time NO-ONE is even listening or giving answers.

That said, I am not obligated to answer your questions or explain why your question/comment was not approved. While I try to read every question or comment, I can not respond to every one of them. There is just not enough time to do so. Someone else may have already asked a similar question to yours, so please take the time to search and read as many articles as possible before you ask your question.

If your question or comment is not approved/deleted, it means that we’ve judged it to be repetitive (been asked before), it’s too long or we don’t see it adding anything of value to the discussion.

Asking for advice

People who frequent this site are looking for “expert” guidance and advice. We ask that you keep questions and comments short and relevant to the original question and post/article. This will help blog users find the answers they’re looking for quickly and easily without having to read through all the “other stuff” which is of very little use to them. This is what makes this blog user-friendly and relevant for all users.

It doesn’t help you to leave a comment (and especially a rant with no clear question) anywhere in any post just to get attention or reaction – any reaction. Attention-seeking and attention-grabbing maneuvers don’t work here.

Since I have very limited time, I give priority to people who have my book and are following the advice in the book. I know exactly where in the process they are and where they may be stuck. However, saying “I bought your book” does not earn you any credits. First of all there is a way for me to check if you really bought my book and secondly, if you read my book to the end, I mention that my blog is not a support forum for those that bought my book. If you need further assistance, please consider signing up for coaching.

Questions about the “No Contact Rule”

I do not approve, endorse of encourage the use of no contact rule. Any questions regarding 1) whether or not to do no contact, 2) how long to give your ex “space”, 3) if and when you should contact your ex, 4) how to approach your ex after a period of no contact etc. will be not be responded to. There are many other sites where you can ask questions no contact, giving space and all distancing or disconnecting strategies. This is NOT one of them. Here, it’s all about connection.

Stories and rants

Our goal is to keep the site professional and simple. Writing long details about your relationship situation here makes the blog crowded and “to whom it may concern” forum-like. Long comments, rants and personal stories that are just about you with no benefit to others, and questions that have nothing to do with the original post or distract and draw attention away from the original topic will not be approved.

If you feel frustrated and need to let it out in a rant, find some other support forum that accepts rants and long personal stories. You will be better served there than here. This site is strictly for people looking for short and direct answers to their relationship questions.

IMPORTANT: We try as much as possible to be fair and give as many people as possible a chance to get answers. If you feel you need to ask more than one question, please consider signing up for one-on-one coaching where I can answer all your questions. I’ll respond to the first question, but your second follow-up question will not be approved/responded to.

Sexual content

Please DO NOT post explicit graphic sexual content. I’m not interested in how other people DO sex and will not approve or respond to any comments or questions that describe the act of sex. As far as I’m concerned, some things are best left private.

Giving advice to other site users

We very much welcome others giving advice to fellow readers. That said, we do not encourage giving advice tainted by your own bad personal experiences, biases, prejudices and preconceived notions. Misleading advice that discourages or railroads others from seeking that heart-soul-mind connection, or does not advance healthy, fulfilling and lasting relationships will not be approved.

Understanding and compassion

We ask that you please be considerate, respectful and empathetic to other users and what they are going through at any particular moment when posting your comments.

Our team of moderators reserves the right to approve or reject comments we deem not in accordance with our approach to human-relations — authenticity, openness, compassion and maturity.


We edit out names, emails or any other information that reveals a third party’s identity.