If you are reading this article it means that you’ve probably heard or read that taking it slow is the best approach to getting back your ex.
But what does taking it slow with your ex really mean?
Taking it slow in anything means slowing the pace at which things are moving forward so that you can go further much. When it comes to getting back your ex, taking it slow means that instead of rushing through the process, you take one small step, see it’s impact and then take the next small step.
It means constantly asking yourself, “What can I say or do that might move my ex the smallest step towards where he/she needs to be able to make a decision to get back together?”
Last but not least, taking it slow means not rushing the other person to a decision (any decision) until he/she is ready to make one.
The most important part of taking things slow with your ex is “moving forward”. If there is no movement because you are giving him/her ” space”, you are not taking it slow. You are foot-dragging, hesitating on taking necessary action and missing opportunities to change things.
Taking it slow ensures that you are not getting far ahead of your ex’s feelings for you. It ensures that you are not putting an enormous amount of pressure on your ex.
By taking small steps, you are not only able to see the impact of your words and actions, it also allows you to course-correct before things reach the point of no return.
The problem is if neither of you has any experience “taking things slow” or if one or both of you has a history of jumping into a relationships headfirst — talking for hours on the first day or contact, and spending too much time together time right away — you might want to take things slow but not know how.
Some of the things you can do include:
1. Do not “actively” try to get back together for say a month or two depending on what stage of the process you are in. Don’t talk about the past (old relationship) and don’t talk about the future (getting back together). Just focus o the present and getting to know each other all over. This is especially effective if one of you has reservations about trying the relationship again, or even staying in contact.
2. Don’t just go out on spur of the moment especially if you have very strong sexual attraction. Instead plan when to go out. For example, plan on going on a date 2 weeks or a month from now if everything goes okay. If that goes well too, plan on another date if things keep going well… and so forth.
3. Don’t start drastically changing your life just because things are going well at the moment. Do all the things you’ve been doing to make your life full and happy on your own, and schedule the “new relationship” with your ex to fit in, instead of the other way around.
4. Do things that friends would do together (see: 3 Ways Being Friends Can Get Back Your Ex).
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