Comments on: Women: Too Picky Or Choosing More Carefully?

By: richard

richard — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:38:06 +0000

Dear Doctor, Your website has been most inspiring. Not only on a relationship basis but also finding a better spiritual self. My relationship ended 3 months ago. It was complicated. I have had a 12 yr relationship with a wonderful person. But my affair started 8 months ago, when my partner went to prison for two yrs. During a failed prison visit when i tried visiting him after a 24 hr plane ride, the pain was so overwhelming i decided to date to rid the pain. But it all ended when i commited to take this long journey again to see my partner in prison. Insecurities set in and once the relationship is on a downhill slide. We both agree no contact for the next few months. Why play games when i could have moved on. I could have even married him but i guess time ran out. As the saying goes, if you love someone – set time free, If they are yours – they will come back. Once again, thank you Yangki. Your words are written with heart and compassion.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 11:57:28 +0000

I think self esteem for women is a vital part of choosing a guy of her dreams.

By: The Love Doctor

The Love Doctor — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 18:48:37 +0000

I hear you Femmevoltage (cooool handle… hmmm…I like )

I did think about the possibility that this might come across to some as “all women are picky and have high and unreasonable expectations.” But then again any man who thinks so already has “issues” with ALL women and will see anything as confirmation of what he already believes; the same way a woman who has “issues” with men thinks ALL men think with their you-know-what and sees “evidence” of this in anything and everything any man says or does. It’s just one of those things…

By: Femmevoltage

Femmevoltage — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:16:55 +0000

Yangki, I agree with everything you’ve said in your post and comments but I also think some not so confident with some self esteem issues guys will use this as further evidence that all women are picky and have high and unreasonable expectations.

By: Sage Man

Sage Man — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:04:26 +0000

I actually don’t think I’m all that too picky, but you’re right, some of my male friends are. Like most people I have a criteria for the type of woman I’d like for a partner but it’s not a dead set list.

By: darkpsymon

darkpsymon — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 13:20:58 +0000

I agree but i have noticed men seem to be excepting women more or i might be wrong about this but i am single and available and women just dont seem interested in me. I dont knw what it is about me but women just dont want to knw any tips?
But here is what i learned the hard way. Love is when two people are willing to make sacrifices for each other why you ask? because even if you find your soul mate you will still have arguments and relationship problems for the simple reason that nobody is perfect i learned the hard that the most special person in your life isnt going to be the perfect person in your life.

By: The Love Doctor

The Love Doctor — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 12:53:53 +0000

Let’s not get carried away… The same thing can be said about men and their behavior… not big enough boobs, not thin enough thighs, not cute enough face… not this enough… that enough…???

By: Sage Man

Sage Man — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 11:46:58 +0000

Women expect men to have it all – perfect job, perfect car, perfect house, perfect parents, perfect body, perfect everything. They’re always looking for someone way out of their league and ignoring or rejecting decent, available men who’d make them happy.

By: MarcusBrig

MarcusBrig — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 07:52:47 +0000

It just seems such a tragedy to shut yourself out of potentially finding the best person for you because of some silly prejudices. I used be one of those people so rigid about what is attractive and what isn’t. As I grew older I opened myself to different women from different races and ethnicities. I particularly remember this one woman, great personality, loved life, very affectionate and caring. I never had a connection with any woman that’s so strong. Unfortunately, she did not want to leave her country.

Great post as usual.

By: The Love Doctor

The Love Doctor — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:59:39 +0000

Thanks for your kind words about my site. I enjoy our exchanges as well…

As for the me me me attitude…. these days you have only to listen or look long enough and everyone is a “gemini”… lol. The irony is many can see it in others but won’t even admit it in themselves… Imho, looking to zodiac signs for answers can be just another distraction people use for not dealing with their real issues… it’s easier to blame it on something else outside oneself…. something beyond one’s control. Just like all the other “looking for love” approaches; it’s a safe place to hide but also the longest and most painful path/way to get to love… that’s if one ever gets there at all.