Question: We’ve been dating for a little over eight weeks and things are going really well. But lately I’ve started to worry that she might be getting bored with doing the same predictable things on every date. I read your eBook and you said it’s the moments when we encounter something new and surprising about someone that take the relationship deeper into the mystery and magnificence of love itself. I’m a really good cook and she doesn’t know that about me.

Saturday, I’m supposed to be picking her up from work and going out for dinner but I was thinking of cooking and serving her a full course dinner at my place. She’s been here before but just for a few drinks before we went for dinner.

She’s a very special woman and I want to make this very special for her. This is where I really need your help. I want to pique her curiosity and create mystery around it the way you talk about in your eBook, but I have no idea how to do that. Any tips? Thank you in advance.

The Love Doctor’s Answer: You are some really cool guy. Lucky woman!

This is one tip I’ve shared and have received feedback saying, it did the magic.

Call her up and after the usual chit-chat. Allow a few seconds of silence to pass, then like you’ve been thinking of something really important that has been weighing on your mind, say something along these lines (revise the words, so it’s more you):

“I’m struggling with a decision and need your help. I have two options, A and B. Which do you think I should choose?”

She may ask, what exactly is involved in each option. Just say it’s something you’d rather not talk about just yet. At this point all you need is some kind of external confirmation on which direction you should go. Then say, don’t put too much thought into it.

If you’re not usually the type to make spontaneous decisions, she may get a little uneasy with this new development, but you want to keep the air of mystery. Say something along these lines (revise the words, so it’s more you):

“I know this is so unlike me, but this is one decision I just have to be spontaneous about, that’s why I’m asking for your help”.

Whichever option she picks, A or B, simply say, “Thank you so much. See you Saturday”

Don’t tell her what you’re planning on doing. Saturday, pick her up as arranged but then suggest you make a little detour to your place because you forgot something.

The rest is up to you! Let me know how it turns out.