Comments on: 5 Common Signs A Man Or Woman Is Playing You http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/ Thu, 17 May 2012 16:44:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-2338 Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng Thu, 23 Jun 2011 11:58:32 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-2338 Interesting comment, Adam... I like! I think you'll find my post: <a href="http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/what-do-you-do-when-your-current-partner-or-ex-is-playing-mind-games/" rel="nofollow"><strong>What To Do When Someone Is Playing Mind Game</strong>s</a> interesting. Check it out... ): Interesting comment, Adam… I like!

I think you’ll find my post: What To Do When Someone Is Playing Mind Games interesting. Check it out… ):

]]> By: Adam696 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-2337 Adam696 Thu, 23 Jun 2011 07:21:56 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-2337 If your partner is playing mind games tell him or her that you do not have time for this nonsense. If he or she is not returning your calls, then immediately stop calling them. Never act like a puppet and do not allow them to do whatever they like because the more you do the more of a loser you will become. If your partner is playing mind games tell him or her that you do not have time for this nonsense. If he or she is not returning your calls, then immediately stop calling them. Never act like a puppet and do not allow them to do whatever they like because the more you do the more of a loser you will become.

]]> By: Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-1786 Yangki Christine Akiteng, Love Doctor Mon, 31 Jan 2011 20:26:04 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-1786 A man who keeps close friendship with all his ex-girlfriends and other female friends, can absolutely be trusted. Personally, I trust such men more than those who hate all their ex-girlfriends and are uncomfortable around other females. Something just isn’t right with people who hate all their exes… But not all men are the same. The trust thing depends on the individual man and the type of relationship the two of you have. If you have reason to think he is upto something “untrustworthy” or if he has in the past done things that prove that he can’t be trusted, then you have good reason not to trust him. It may or may not be a commitment issue. There are so many factors at play before one can conclude the other person has commitment issues. One of them being that one person is moving too fast in terms of feelings. It does not mean the slower person is afraid of commitment, just that they do not feel for you the way you feel for them. I suspect this may be your situation because you say “I wouldn’t mind to slow down” and he seems to be spending more time with other females. It could be he’s just not ready to be ‘exclusive” with you, even though you are ready for that next step. A man who keeps close friendship with all his ex-girlfriends and other female friends, can absolutely be trusted. Personally, I trust such men more than those who hate all their ex-girlfriends and are uncomfortable around other females. Something just isn’t right with people who hate all their exes…

But not all men are the same. The trust thing depends on the individual man and the type of relationship the two of you have. If you have reason to think he is upto something “untrustworthy” or if he has in the past done things that prove that he can’t be trusted, then you have good reason not to trust him.

It may or may not be a commitment issue. There are so many factors at play before one can conclude the other person has commitment issues. One of them being that one person is moving too fast in terms of feelings. It does not mean the slower person is afraid of commitment, just that they do not feel for you the way you feel for them. I suspect this may be your situation because you say “I wouldn’t mind to slow down” and he seems to be spending more time with other females. It could be he’s just not ready to be ‘exclusive” with you, even though you are ready for that next step.

]]> By: Viena http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-1785 Viena Mon, 31 Jan 2011 19:00:34 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-1785 Dear Christine. My name is Viena. I met a guy I really liked a few month ago and everything was just fantastic. I knew he was fascinated and very attracted by me... I wouldn`t mind to slow down before to get to the next level, but I afraid I became the "Next" for the "Quality Time" in his "favorit`s list"... Can be man (never married, no children), who keeps close friendship with all his ex-girlfriends and other femail friends, and still planning to go for holidays with his First Love, trusted? Can it be kind of symptom of commitment problem in relation? Kind regards Viena Dear Christine.

My name is Viena. I met a guy I really liked a few month ago and everything was just fantastic. I knew he was fascinated and very attracted by me…
I wouldn`t mind to slow down before to get to the next level, but I afraid I became the “Next” for the “Quality Time” in his “favorit`s list”…

Can be man (never married, no children), who keeps close friendship with all his ex-girlfriends and other femail friends, and still planning to go for holidays with his First Love, trusted? Can it be kind of symptom of commitment problem in relation?

Kind regards
Viena

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-910 The Love Doctor Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:22:31 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-910 This is a good example of “it depends on an individual character”. I personally don’t think you going there was the problem nor do I fault his gf for feeling the way she feels. There are many men in very similar situations to your ex who have more integrity and respect for their gfs and would not to come on an ex just because she's still in his life. This is why I’m hesitant to put it there along with the other signs that you’re being played. Just because someone is friends with an ex or talks fondly of an ex should not stop someone from pursuing a relationship with great potential. From personal experience and from working in this field long enough, I’d put a red flag tag on anyone whose EVERY SINGLE relationship ended with them having nothing good to say about an ex or “hating” an ex (and vice versa). These kind of people are just changing “faces” of exes but haven’t done anything to change/improve <strong>the only common denominator/constant factor in all those relationships -- themselves!</strong> They're looking for something in others that they themselves don't have and blaming everyone else but themelves for their relationship problems. People with someone who has only bad memories of, or is always talking badly about all his/her exes have to remember that there is a very, very high possibility that they’ll one day be that ex. This is a good example of “it depends on an individual character”. I personally don’t think you going there was the problem nor do I fault his gf for feeling the way she feels. There are many men in very similar situations to your ex who have more integrity and respect for their gfs and would not to come on an ex just because she’s still in his life. This is why I’m hesitant to put it there along with the other signs that you’re being played. Just because someone is friends with an ex or talks fondly of an ex should not stop someone from pursuing a relationship with great potential.

From personal experience and from working in this field long enough, I’d put a red flag tag on anyone whose EVERY SINGLE relationship ended with them having nothing good to say about an ex or “hating” an ex (and vice versa). These kind of people are just changing “faces” of exes but haven’t done anything to change/improve the only common denominator/constant factor in all those relationships — themselves! They’re looking for something in others that they themselves don’t have and blaming everyone else but themelves for their relationship problems.

People with someone who has only bad memories of, or is always talking badly about all his/her exes have to remember that there is a very, very high possibility that they’ll one day be that ex.

]]> By: Terri http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-909 Terri Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:00:44 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-909 I am very much still a part of y ex's life because we have children. I have met his current girlfriend and she seems like a pretty decent woman. My ex still tries to come on to me and I often told him that to give in to his desires would mean that I am a lonely, desperate woman. I told him that he should not do things like that because it would have his gf feeling insecure about what she has with him. Guess what??? She no longer speak to me anymore when I drop my kids off at my ex's house. I am fine with that but I feel like me coming around caused her to have ill feelings towards me. So I can see that staying in touch with your ex or always talking about an ex could be a problem. Just my thoughts. :) I am very much still a part of y ex’s life because we have children. I have met his current girlfriend and she seems like a pretty decent woman. My ex still tries to come on to me and I often told him that to give in to his desires would mean that I am a lonely, desperate woman. I told him that he should not do things like that because it would have his gf feeling insecure about what she has with him. Guess what??? She no longer speak to me anymore when I drop my kids off at my ex’s house. I am fine with that but I feel like me coming around caused her to have ill feelings towards me. So I can see that staying in touch with your ex or always talking about an ex could be a problem. Just my thoughts. :)

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-902 The Love Doctor Tue, 02 Feb 2010 18:16:12 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-902 I totally agree… if he/she keeps bringing up an ex, then there are some “unresolved” issues there. But does it necessarily mean you’re being “played?” Some people get “stuck in the past” even when they have no second thoughts of getting back with an ex... anger, pain of rejection/abandonment, etc. ***Keeps bringing up an ex -- tale-tell sign with a question mark. There is a possibility he/she could be on the rebound and using you (but not intentionally) to get over an ex (and you may even know it but choose to believe what you want to believe). But there are also some men and women who don’t want the person they’re dating to say anything positive about an ex... they ask questions and when the person answers honestly, they automatically conclude “he/she’s not over an ex yet!” They assume all exes are exes because they were “bad” people, and all break-ups are nasty/painful - which is not true for everyone. ***Says positive (fond) things about an ex -- not necessarily a red flag unless they’re saying it in ways that suggest they still have hopes of someday getting back together. I totally agree… if he/she keeps bringing up an ex, then there are some “unresolved” issues there. But does it necessarily mean you’re being “played?” Some people get “stuck in the past” even when they have no second thoughts of getting back with an ex… anger, pain of rejection/abandonment, etc.

***Keeps bringing up an ex — tale-tell sign with a question mark. There is a possibility he/she could be on the rebound and using you (but not intentionally) to get over an ex (and you may even know it but choose to believe what you want to believe).

But there are also some men and women who don’t want the person they’re dating to say anything positive about an ex… they ask questions and when the person answers honestly, they automatically conclude “he/she’s not over an ex yet!” They assume all exes are exes because they were “bad” people, and all break-ups are nasty/painful – which is not true for everyone.

***Says positive (fond) things about an ex — not necessarily a red flag unless they’re saying it in ways that suggest they still have hopes of someday getting back together.

]]> By: Modwana http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-901 Modwana Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:42:30 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-901 I had an experience with one of my ex-boyfriends. He couldn’t let go about a relationship that happened 3 months before I even met him. It drove me nuts! Did I say he is now my ex? Insecure men are such a turn off. I do however think that if he keeps bringing up his ex, he’s not over her yet. I had an experience with one of my ex-boyfriends. He couldn’t let go about a relationship that happened 3 months before I even met him. It drove me nuts! Did I say he is now my ex? Insecure men are such a turn off.

I do however think that if he keeps bringing up his ex, he’s not over her yet.

]]> By: brazilian girl http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-898 brazilian girl Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:21:40 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-898 "(...) it's not like you appreciate them one day and you stop the next." I couldn't agree more with that! :-) “(…) it’s not like you appreciate them one day and you stop the next.” I couldn’t agree more with that! :-)

]]> By: The Love Doctor http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/5-tale-tell-signs-that-say-he-or-she-is-playing-you/#comment-897 The Love Doctor Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:24:30 +0000 http://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/?p=2906#comment-897 <em>1. “There's plenty of people in the world to be friends with, why an ex?” </em> True, but why not an ex? They are “people” too… :) <em>2. What if he has second thoughts about getting back together with them?</em> Those are his decisions and choices to make. The way I see it is, if a man (or woman) wants to cheat with an ex or someone else, he (or she) will cheat. Even if you try to prevent it, they’ll find ways to do it. That’s just a fact of life. Trust is given and trust is earned experientially - you cannot demand, coax, charm or wheedle it. But this is just me and I’m not saying I’m a “better” person for my outlook on life. I just have far more important and interesting things to do with my life than worry my little heart over who my guy might (or might not) cheat with. 1. “There’s plenty of people in the world to be friends with, why an ex?”

True, but why not an ex? They are “people” too… :)

2. What if he has second thoughts about getting back together with them?

Those are his decisions and choices to make. The way I see it is, if a man (or woman) wants to cheat with an ex or someone else, he (or she) will cheat. Even if you try to prevent it, they’ll find ways to do it. That’s just a fact of life.

Trust is given and trust is earned experientially – you cannot demand, coax, charm or wheedle it. But this is just me and I’m not saying I’m a “better” person for my outlook on life. I just have far more important and interesting things to do with my life than worry my little heart over who my guy might (or might not) cheat with.

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