Could be either, but my bet is on playing games. …

Comment on 5 Common Signs A Man Or Woman Is Playing You by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

Could be either, but my bet is on playing games.

Why don’t you ask her straight up why she texts you when she’s with the other guy. If it’s because she’s thinking of you, her response may be coy, but it’ll be something sweet. If she’s just playing games, she’ll get defensive and/or act up (they always do when backed into a corner).

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5 Common Signs A Man Or Woman Is Playing You
I wasn’t talking about “confronting” him. In my opinion, “confront” implies an accuser and a defendant, one who’s right and one who’s wrong, a winner and a loser, etc. Most situations when approached with that kind of mindset don’t end well.

I’m talking about being open with him about how you feel without making it look like he’s done something wrong. For all you know at this point, it’s probably just your issues… nothing is going on.

Will he get upset or pull away? May be. But keeping things in actually causes more damage than getting it out in the open.

When you keep it in, it eats at you and one day it comes out in ways you had not planned or can handle. An argument or fight begins. Things get out of hand. Often times at this point, it’s too late to do any thing to make things better.

Planning before hand, how and when you bring it out in the open gives you better control of yourself and of the conversation. But more importantly, you get to address the issue before it gets to the point when it’s too late to do anything.

Most people appreciate you expressing your concerns in a reasonable rationale way than acting irrationally or sneaking behind their back.


5 Common Signs A Man Or Woman Is Playing You
Let me address what jumps at me first. Are you trying to “win” (justify your suspicions) or trying to create a loving sustainable relationship? If you are looking for evidence prove that you were right to look into his phone the first time, then this is not about a gut feeling, but about YOU.

That said, you obviously don’t trust your ex, and may be you have good reason not to. But instead of doing what didn’t work before (snoop around), why not go to him with your concerns and let him deny or confirm them. Of course he may deny it even when there is something going on, but if you go with an open mind, you can tell a lot from his reaction.

Make your decision based on whether you want to continue in a relationship where you can’t trust someone and they aren’t doing anything to address your concerns, or accept that you can’t control what your ex does, and try to find how to be at peace with what you can’t control.


5 Common Signs A Man Or Woman Is Playing You
Then you decide whether you want to pursue her knowing she’s with someone else and will probably be with him for a while, or you want to cut your loses now and go graze elsewhere.

Let me guess… your next question will be “is it possible to get your ex when she’s with someone else?”

I’ll save us both the time and effort…(:

YES! Very possible. More complicated and sometimes takes much longer than situations where there is no one else in the picture. But yes, it happens a lot more than you know.

If 1) the relationship with the other person is not serious, 2) your ex is okay with you pursing her when she’s with someone else (e.g. he/she responds positively) and 3) you have the patience and mental focus to do it. Playing second fiddle is not for everyone.


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3 Reasons Staying Friends With Your Ex Is Good For Getting Back Together
That’s a very legitimate concern that’s handled in Dating Your Ex
1) how not to get locked in the “just friends” zone (page 300 )
2) physical contact when trying to get back together (page 308)


10 Signs Your Ex Does NOT WANT You Back
If this is a one time thing and there are no other problems in the relationship, she’s probably still processing what happened and needs time to resolve it within her mind.

If this has happened before (you texting other women), or if there are other issues in the relationship, she might be rethinking if she really wants you back.

Either way, keep lines of communication open, and see where things go.


Tips On Creating A (Good) Plan For Getting Back Your Ex
You are just ¼ into the book. It’s best to read the whole book first to determine where in the process you are in then make a decision based on how much momentum you have built/progress made. In fact, if you read further, you will get to where I talk about going out on dates.


10 Signs Your Ex Does NOT WANT You Back
You are right that talking about the old relationship may have caused him to pull back. As advised in the book, you can’t completely avoid making mistakes. Almost everyone makes at least one or two. It’s how you course correct that makes the difference.You should be able to get back on track using the advice in the book. It’s not completely lost, yet!


Do Exes Really Ever Come Back?
Thanks, I do the best I can.

Yes, it’s a good idea… 🙂 There is enough momentum to propel you forward. I too believe that you will get back together, it’s only a matter of time (if you don’t screw it up).


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