First of all, very few exes end a relationship saying: …

Comment on 4 Strong Signs Your Break-Up Isn’t Final – Pt. 2 by Love Doctor, Yangki C. Akiteng.

First of all, very few exes end a relationship saying: ‘I am breaking up with you but I am sure I will change my mind and want you back’. Very few.

Over 90% honestly believe that it is over and thy are not changing their minds. Most change their minds because the dynamic changed and they can see the relationship can be better.

What I am saying is, as long as the lines of communication are still open, there is always a possibility he’ll change his mind. It is who you become (new you) and what you do to make the relationship FEEL and BE new and better that makes all the difference.

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It sounds like it. Why else would he tell you he now feels he would be in a better position to be with you and doesn’t feel like seeing other people. I would even go further than “rethinking the breakup” to say he is thinking of the two of you getting back together.

If nothing happens to make him think getting back together may not be a good idea after all, I think you’ll get back together very soon.

Make sure you start over and create a new relationship. In your kind of situation, it’s very easy to fall back to the old relationship and have him again say he wants to date other people or come up with some other reason to break-up again.

Ms. Independent. Hmm, I like… 🙂

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It is mixed signals alright. It happens when someone still has feelings for you but doesn’t think or is not sure the relationship can work.

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