I’m happy for you…(: Giving your ex the opportunity to …

Comment on 10 Ways Your Ex Feels Rejected By You by Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng.

I’m happy for you…(: Giving your ex the opportunity to exercise his/her own ability to give (his/her own way), changes the dynamics of a relationship. Sometimes that’s hard because many of us fear that the other person may not be able to give or may not want to give, and so we give way too much or compromise way too much to try to “save” the relationship.

You will never know if you are with a person who is incapable of giving or doesn’t want to give (or even loves you) if you do not let them show who they really are. As I discuss in the course, if you are always trying to “control” things because of your own fears, you end up carrying the relationship all by yourself.

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10 Ways Your Ex Feels Rejected By You
No, YOU saved your relationship.

I have often wondered what happened after you completed the course. I’m glad things are amazing…(:

I’m still working out a platform for “happy” stories like yours. I’ll be contacting you once I have that sorted out. In the meantime, please keep sharing and encouraging others not to give up without a “good” fight.

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A Break-Up Vs. A Bad Start
If there is even a possibility, it’s probably too low because he never fell in love with you in the first place. Since he already tried feeling something and didn’t, it’s very likely that he’s convinced that those feelings will never come. It’d have been different if he felt he didn’t try, or didn’t try hard enough. Then may be he’d want to give it a another chance.

That said, if he’s still open to communicating with you, and you can show him that things can be different, you might have a chance. It’s always better to err on the side of trying than give up before you even try. That way you’ll know for sure.

3 Reasons Why You’re Not Making Progress With Your Ex
She is being passive-aggressive, you are right about that. She perceives your ‘rebellion’ as an ‘attack’ on her need for you to spend time with her and ‘giving you space’ is her way of fighting back. But there may be some manipulation going on as well, especially if after she does ‘gives you space’, you to start staying home with her every single day.

As long as there’s some kind of ‘reward’ in it for her, she’ll keep doing it.

How to Earn Your Ex’s Trust – Pt 3
My very best wishes… and thanks. It means a lot!

How to Earn Your Ex’s Trust – Pt 3
Consistency is good. But sometimes just being consistent isn’t enough. To see progress you must take some risks in order to move from hot/cold to consistently warm.

I’d also advice ditching the “break down her walls’ mentality. I know exactly what you mean but our words do affect how we think and how we think affects how we act.

How about…”she feels safe enough to put her guard down“. Sounds more “loving” than break down her walls, doesn’t it… 😉

What To Do When Your Ex Is Playing Mind Games
You have many choices to choose from. You can choose to 1) give in and beg, 2) call her out on it, 3) play along and make her realize how immature her actions are, 4) ignore her and wait for her to contact you or 5) ignore her and move on with your life.

Whatever you choose to do, keep in mind that if you give her the impression that her game playing worked, it’ll confirm to her that playing mind games with you works, and she’ll most likely do it again and again. That can mess you up big time — not to mention make it impossible to create a healthy relationship.

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