10 Silly Mind Games Your Ex Is Playing

A mind or mental game is nothing more than good old manipulation to get you to do what someone wants you to do, but suspects or knows that you will not do willingly or unreservedly — and for good reason.

The whole purpose is to try to mess with your otherwise sane and reasonable head.

Here is the thing: If it feels like a mind game, it is.

  1. Your ex texts you and when you don’t respond, he/she texts again to say he/she “accidentally” texted you.
  2. Your ex calls then hangs up. And when you call back, they say it was a drunk call or their butt dialed your number.
  3. Your ex texts or calls asking you to do them a favour; something anyone else could have easily done.
  4. Your ex sends you a sweet nice text asking about how you are but when you don’t reply as quickly as you are expected, you get the silent treatment or get deleted/blocked.
  5. Your ex sends you texts saying how much they miss you but as soon as you respond in “I miss you too” way, they start ignoring you.
  6. Your ex sends very flirtatious texts but when you ask personal questions or ask if you can call them, they become abrupt, vague or rude.
  7. Your ex sends you some weird text or email with the intention of leaving you guessing… “I have some good news” or “”I’m watching this very funny video on You Tube” or something equally meaningless.
  8. You are texting back and forth for a while but then he/she suddenly stops contact. After a few days/weeks of “No Contact” you get a surprise “I love you” text with a smiley.
  9. Your ex flaunts his/her new man or woman in front of you, then acts surprised and/or offended when you do actually get jealous.
  10. All seems to be going well, no arguments, no fights but suddenly he /she pulls the “I don’t love you anymore” stunt just so you beg and plead.

The more you know about the mind games your ex is playing, the better you can protect yourself from getting burned and feeling frustrated and bitter. And if you still care for your ex, you can stop feeding his or her need for drama or attention, or from emotionally abusing you.

If you suspect your ex is playing mind games, you might want to read my article: What To Do When Your Ex Is Playing Mind Games

PS: If you know of other mind games people play, feel free to add them in the comments section. No essays please…one sentence or two is more powerful.

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  • greg says:

    I feel like no contact has backfired. I sent my ex a cam reconnection message “Hey how have you been? If you have sometime next week let’s get together on Skype, I just have to personally thank you for what you did.”. She immediately sent me a text “thank me for what?” I told her I’d like to explain it face to face via video chat. She sent back a text saying she knows what I’m trying to do and is not interested. Do you think I completely ruined my chances?

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    • Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng says:

      This is one of the problems of using generic scripts. They are there on the internet and there is a chance your ex has seen it or is using the same “technique” on you. I know of exes who even play along and make you think whatever you’re doing is working then throw it in your face.

      It’s not clear whether she’s not interested in getting together on Skype or getting back together. I suggest you try one more time to reconnect with her, but be honest and do it from your heart. You may or may not get her back, but at least you’ll be respected.

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  • Dombro says:

    She broke it off 8 months ago. After 3 months of no contact, I contacted her. We talked for a couple of weeks, and then she told me she was kinda seeing someone. I told her I understand and stopped contact for another two months. I contacted her when I found out she had ended it with the other guy. Her first reply was friendly but the others said she didn’t want anything to do with me. What is confusing me is that she says she wants me out of her life but still contacts me and asks me who else I’m dating. She is saying one thing and doing another like it is a game.

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  • Kim R. says:

    It is very confusing when an ex is contacting you for sometime and then disappears for weeks. At first I thought he might be confused about his feelings for me but after a year of on and off again contact, I told him I still loved him and wanted him back. His response was”that’s never going to happen”. I asked him why he was contacting me if we were never going to get back together and his response was “you had no problem with it before.” I told him never to contact me again and he responded “your wish is my command”. I never hard from him again. I still think about him and miss him but I have to move on.

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    • Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng Love Doctor, Yangki Christine Akiteng says:

      This is probably not going to help, but I’ll say it anyway. Your ex is a real jerk. Given his responses, he had no intentions of getting back with you. His on and off contacts were just an ego boost.

      It’s hard now, but you will get past this.

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  • Moolice says:

    They text you saying “sorry about the missed call, my phone rang you in my pocket”. Yet there was no missed call on the phone.

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